Welcome back @Majiek
you repeat the pattern, you asked for before. so given advice is the same. stop enabling, get your focus on yourself, call ambulance/police and stop interacting. you don’t want to do that. that’s your choice. no, you won’t hear anything else to support your own codependent party you refuse to step out. get help for yourself and control your own life. yes it hurts and worries. nothing you can do about it.
Why you listen? You already got advice: let it be and focus on yourself. her drinking is nothing you can do about.
you don’t want to change, you want to stay where you are and rant about it.
You have to focus and work on yourself. As previously said the addiction of your mother is not your business nor can you do anything about it, let alone control it or force her to act in a certain way, decide something on her behalf or help her.
What you are sharing about yourself reminds me partly of myself. Wanting the sober version of a loved one, worrying about the fuckup the person causes when drinking.
Fact is, detachment, hard boundaries and distancing from the drunken drama AND your ow…
Get out there, stay at your own home, block her and let the universe care. Your health comes first.
No need to talk to her, you are talking to the bottle when she is drunk.
Tough love, yes, tell her she is an abusive asshole while drunk - when she is sober and not hungover so she can get the message if she wants.
nothing you can do about her.
take care about yourself. if you focus on her drinking, you neglect your needs for sober connection and loose focus on your own health. very bad idea w…
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