What would prison for a 63 year old male with a third DUI be like? My boyfriend thinks it will be like an indoor all-inclusive resort so he has started drinking and driving again.
Here are some things he hates. Based on conversations with AA friends who have been to prison, he would not do well there. Would love additional input…
He hates being cold and keeps the thermostat on 78°.
He hates overly processed food like McDonald’s. He likes fresh veggies and real meat.
He does not like to talk to people he doesn’t know very well.
He hates watching TV.
He hates having to sit around and wait with nothing to do.
He hates uncomfortable mattresses.
He thinks prison would be a free all-inclusive indoor break from life where he gets to hang out all day reading his books on eastern religion and non-duality.
Thank you in advance for any insights you can provide.
I think no amount of info will help? Sounds like its an excuse to drink and take risks. He needs to figure this out on his and own up to his addictions.
He’s not going to stop drinking. I just want him to stop drinking and driving. He will do that if he talks to someone who tells him his info on what prison is like is completely wrong.
I don’t think it’ll help. There is no reasoning with an alcoholic in active addiction. He has to want to stop himself. Have you thought about Alanon?
I need info from someone who has been to prison. I don’t care if he keeps drinking because I can’t do anything about that. Al-Anon is not going to help in this situation.
My husband has been in jail and I waited for him and went to visit him. To this day he still has ptsd from some things he witnessed. I don’t even know all the things he saw because he won’t talk about it. My husband was housed at a unit that did not have central air during the summer in Texas. So not ideal 78 degree weather. We got 1 2 hr visit on Saturday that I drove an hr and a half for.
It’s an excuse and a pretty shitty one if I’m being honest.
That’s pretty selfish way how to try to get to prison - drive drunk and put other people to danger…
Maybe the prison is an experience he really needs.
I don’t know much about prison, but I know a girl I went to school with who got killed by a drunk driver before turning 17. A week before her birthday, actually. Drunk driving isn’t just putting himself at risk and prison should be the least of concerns.
Your comment was mean. I’m sure the things you did to end up here were a class act. We’ve all messed up. I’m looking for help to keep him out of prison and innocent people from being hurt or killed. You’re just here to feed your ego. Go call your Sponsor and come back when you’re heart is in the right place and leave your ego in the junk drawer.
You should give your strong intelligent advice to your partner as you seem to have no problem telling us some home truths. That’s it now I need a drink.
