Hello. My name is Haley. I’m an alcoholic. I have said it before jokenly. I never thought of myself as one. I didn’t need it to get through the day. I didn’t get shakes. The typical alcoholic wasn’t me, but when I had a few drinks I wouldn’t stop. When I couldn’t get thoughts to quiet down I drank till I passed out. After a point I wasn’t nice. Sometimes even violent. I need to work through my trauma. I need to lead a better example for my kids. I need to be a healthier version of myself. Day one.
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Welcome, Hailey and congratulations on taking the first step along the road to sobriety.
I didn’t think of myself as an “alcoholic” either, until one day I did. I ended up preferring days where I could drink to those where I could not and for me that’s a pretty good definition of alcoholic!
There are so many great resources here to help you on your journey. Stick around and find out!
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Hi Haley, Welcome. Deciding not to allow alcohol to run (or ruin) your life is an important step, but I can attest that life is sooo much better without alcohol. It’s a good idea to read around different threads Iin the app. The Daily Check-In and What’s Your Plan are particularly helpful, I think. There’s a lot of good advice and life experience here that I find useful to remind myself that I’m not alone and that there are many ways to get and stay sober.
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Hi Haley, and welcome to Talking Sober.
I think we probably all had a definition of an alcoholic that we could compare ourselves against and conclude “Well, that’s not me”. The important and shared experience is that we all decided at some time to not take one drink for one day, and followed that decision with action.
Have a look around, search for topics of interest to you, hang out for a while. This is a good safe place to be when you want to not drink, and it’s a great place to find out how others have stayed sober and stay sober today.
Blessings 
on your house as you begin your journey.
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Day two. Well it was a long one. It’s a different feeling knowing you are giving up drinking. The day seemed longer. My dad sister and her girlfriend were drinking while we worked in the roof. It upset me. Idk why. They have no idea quit. I use to drink just once a week maybe twice going days with out is normal but now it’s like I’m mad. I don’t know what else to say. Two days down.
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Everyone has different personalities and family/friend dynamics. That being said, I had to be vocal about my quiting or abstaining from any substance… the people that pushed back on you dont last long and the ones who love you will support you. In early days, its hard to be around your DOC so I’d let those close to you know it upsets you, even if you preface it with “I dont know why but…” and give yourself alot of grace! We’re all glad you’re here! 
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