Hi everyone
My name is kevin and I am from ireland
Ive been sober since August 2024 and iam really glad I came across this app as ive been really struggling at the moment
I have been finding it hard to cope and it feels like everything is just getting on top of me. I dont really have anyone to talk to or vent to so I am hoping that been part of this community with like minded people who understand what iam going true will help
Iam looking forward to getting to know you all
Welcome to the forum Kevin! My name is Dana. Congratulations on ur sober time!! Thats some decent days piled up!
Glad ur here sharing here when ur struggling. Thats exactly what part of this forum is about… getting support.
Whats going on for you lately?
Hi Dana
It’s sounds silly but I qualified as a gym instructor a while back and ive gone out working for myself iam at it 10 months and it just does not seem to be working out can’t get people in the door unfortunately I love its the first job ive ever had that I enjoy doing so I dont want to throw the towel in just yet
And that brings other problems such as finances trying to run a home support a son then its paying on your mind why isnt this working out aswell I dont no probably sounds silly
No it doesnt sound silly at all!! Financial stuff can be a HUGE trigger for stress and worry. I get it! I actually wanted to be a fitness coach for the longest time and didnt go thru with it yet bcuz of the worry of not getting clients in the door. Its hard when u work for urself. That income needs to come in to support urself and ur family.
Im glad u enjoy fitness tho. Its sooo good for physical and mental health 
I would keep at it! Especially if ur truly passionate about it, which it seems that u are!
Can u supplement that income with something else until u get ur business off the ground?
I never had a job that you go to where ylu want to go it has a purpose if you get me
I love been able to help people fitness jist done so much for me in my early recovery
Iam currently trying to get help from social welfare here in ireland but there making it impossible right now id be financially better off to close up and go on social welfare which makes no sense at all how you can be better off unemployed than employed this country is backwards unfortunately
I am looking at going back to college part time to study addiction studies
Thats awesome! Sounds like u have some great goals for urself How are u doing recovery wise through all this?
Iam doing ok yes i dont want to use or drink just finding it very hard to get motivated
Ive lost my way a small bit regarding meetings and doing the right things but iam back on track now the last 2 weeks so iam happy my recovery needs to come first before anything and I forgot that for a while
Hi Kevin! I’m maddie from America. Nice to meet you, and welcome to Talking Sober!
HUGE congratulations on your time sober- two years is amazing! I’m sorry things have been difficult for you lately. This is absolutely a place you can be yourself and vent it out when life gets rough. You’ll make lots of connections here. Check out the check-in thread if you’d like and jump in when you’re ready.
Thats sooo very true. I have over 4.5 years clean and sober and at times I have seen myself get complacent and then I start feeling awful mentally and emotionally bcuz of that. We have a daily reprieve for sure. Our addictions never took a day off in the problem, so why should we take a day off in recovery
I have another addiction that Im working on now, with regards to my food issues. And I recently have gotten complacent with that program, had a slip there a few days ago and so I can relate with u on sort of “losing my way”. I have been feeling that lately when it comes to my eating issues. But all we have is today! Its a brand new day to make changes in our lives and to get back on track with our recoveries (however that may look)
4.5 years thats amazing Dana well done 
Yes complacent is the word I leave other thing’s into my head that I think are important but then when you slow down a bit you see there not
Sorry to hear you had a slip with regards to a different issue we really need to put ourselves first before anything theres no way I want to go back to where I was 2 years ago thats for sure
Hi Maddie
Thanks so much for your message
I already feel relief by talking to @Butterflymoonwoman its so nice to be able to talk instead if keeping everything to yourself
I will be sure to check it out Thank you so much
Welcome to Talking Sober, Kevin. I’m Dan, from America. You’ve been sober for a while, and I’m curious as to what you are doing to build and maintain that sobriety. I do hope to see you around here. As you know, there is nothing so bad that a drink will not make it worse, and nothing so good that a drink will make it better!
Hi Dan
I completely lost my way these last few months putting things ahead of my recovery was getting a meeting in here and there wasnt doing what I what worked for me in early recovery but I am now back to my meetings and doing the right things again 
Sobriety is a gift a gift you need to work at every single day and I forgot that
Hi Kev regards from across the sea Scotland great meetings will make it easier im along time sober been to a few meetings in Ireland north and south got a few great friends over there wish you well
