Hi everyone, I know I’m gonna sound like a Scrooge, but I just simply don’t enjoy the holidays. This will be my fourth one not drinking, now I realize I don’t think I’ve ever liked it either way. Once the whole excitement of Santa Claus and all that, to me, it seems forced. Even right now, I’m being completely honest, but the expectations and the notion that this is supposed to be some happy and joyous time, just the fact that it is supposed to be. It doesn’t seem authentic. December 26 is my favorite day of the year…. please don’t let me ruin anybody’s holiday cheer, I just wanted to say, if you’re having difficulty during the holidays, you’re not alone.
and most importantly, don’t let it trigger you to drink/use!
I have had a complicated relationship with ‘the holidays’ for quite a few years now, so I feel you there. It doesn’t make you a Scrooge at all IMHO. To me, it is just more work and stuff to accumulate I don’t need. I admire some folks dedication to holiday cheer. I myself do like a nice cup of hot cocoa, but I would rather be soaking up sun on a beach.
You are not alone! And I appreciate you sharing your feelings.
I definitely relate! I really only enjoy the holidays because I see how much my loved ones enjoy it. If I didn’t have that I wouldn’t feel the need to celebrate any holiday! I also think that there is some inauthentic themes to certain holidays and I despise the capitalistic manor in which a lot of people treat certain holidays as well. But, it seems quite a few people get a lot of enjoyment out of the holidays for real reasons other than gifts or partying, which at the end of the day I am a little envious of, that spark of magic just isn’t there for me
Thank you, it’s nice to feel like I’m not alone. You know, they say when the matriarch of the family passes away, so does the family. And the post about gifts and an authentic traditions, it reminded me of the one thing my mother did. She had like a little manger and she put a bunch of toothpicks next to it, and she told everybody in the house, do something nice for someone’s secretly, and then put the toothpick in the manger. And leading up to Christmas it filled up see, it’s stuff like that that to me, means more than any of the fine foods or gifts being passed around. …..
Im naturally happy go lucky but for. Christmas, i dont need gifts, i need my wife and baby boy. Something that makes me smile is working all day and having them just go out and get gifts for me or eachother or loved ones on me.
I think it might be about helping the next person for the fun and love of the person
I can totally relate its probally one of the most difficult time of year to get throigh so many mixed memories and emotions and continual battle with myself more than anything else.
So im thnkfull that im not the only person feeling this way
