I know with all the parties coming up it’s a stressful time for the nondrinker especially those early in soberity (once you have more time n work some steps it’s not so bad.) but you will go to parties and events and ppl may offer you a drink… First say no… If they ask why ur not drinking say ur the DD or just tell them your not in a drinking mood… Second always have something in your hand ie: redbull water tea soda w/e… Ppl won’t ask If ur already drinking something… 3rd if u go to parties with friends who plan to drink drive your own car bc at some point they will get annoying (the drunks) and you will want to go… And they wont
These things saved me in early soberity when I didn’t have alot of tools… Keep yourself accountable… Let someone know that you are going to a party with booze and be able to call them if you need support throughout the night…
There is no excuse to drink or use this holiday season… Just be true to yourself… And share this with others so they know the appropriate etiquette at a party, ️
Thank you for this. Last year I failed on my first party and drank straight for 4 weeks non stop. I’m afraid this Christmas again, but I’ll try to keeepp myself busy . Thanks for sharing
Thank you for posting this reminder! I’ve struggled with the whole “partying” thing since I got clean almost a year and a half ago. At first people stopped inviting me to parties, I think it was because they didn’t know how to handle me being in recovery, so they avoided the situation. Then a friend said she was throwing a party, and asked if anyone wanted to come, and I said I did. I was about 5 months clean at the time. I was nervous, as I knew there would be drinking there, but I decided to test the waters (something I wouldn’t recommend without a lot of planning and back up plans!) I went to the party, and took every last drop of alcohol from my home and donated it to those drinking at the party. Seemed like a “kill two birds with one stone” kind of moment. Luckily I wasn’t the only one not drinking at the party, and I didn’t feel as lonely as I thought I would. I can’t say I wasn’t tempted to drink, because I was, but I made it through. I didn’t stay at the party as long as I’d planned on, but I didn’t feel the need to. Drinking and getting high just aren’t part of my life anymore, and I’m grateful for that! Since then, I’ve found that most people are respectful of my choosing not to imbibe, but some people offer me substances even when they know I’m in recovery, and that really bothers me. I know to stay away from such people. Anyway, good luck to everyone, and have a happy (and sober) holiday season! <3
Hey it will be Ok, just make sure you are talking to ppl and letting ppl know how serious it is that you stay sober… I use to just make my friends uncomfortable af and say… Do u want me to die bc if I start drinking that may very well happen lol and then they would leave the issue alone…
The reality is that I could die if I pick back up… And I keep that in the fire front if my mind bc there is no promise that I will be to get sober a 2nd time… So I’m not going to risk it… If u ever need to talk hmu.
Yeh I know what you mean. Especially tonight I’m going to a birthday supper of one of my good friend at a resto-bar i used to go drink a lot. Never went there in 6 months. I used to be greeted there by some shots… I don’t really feel like going there seriously. But I’m ready to be just rude to anyone who annoys me with this. I’m just going to leave if it happens and I already told my friend who’s its birthdays.
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