I told my boyfriend that i needed space but now i regret it… he wont answer my calls or my texts. Im freaking out.
I love him and don’t ever ever want to lose him.
What can i do?
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Why did you need space?
It sounds like you’re worried. That’s totally understandable.
He may be trying to take the space he needs too. If you’re holding back your emotional investment - taking space, taking emotional room to breathe - it’s only sensible from his perspective for him to do the same: take the space he needs to be able to breathe, to be his independent self. It’s not about you; it’s just about him being able to have the boundaries of a healthy independent single person.
If you needed space there must have been a reason. You are gaining perspective and you need some emotional room to do that. Take this time to focus on your independent work, the whole reason you started this in the first place. (Is that why you asked for space in the first place?)
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If I were in his shoes and my partner told me that they needed space, I would probably need time to process that. I feel like he may be doing that by not answering ur texts or calls. He could feel hurt or confused or angry. Whatever he is feeling tho is something for him to deal with. No matter what he is feeling, what u are feeling also is important. And u asked for space for a reason like @Matt said. I woukd personally just give him space and give urself that space that u asked for. He will come around I’m sure and msg u, probably wanting to know why ur asking for space etc. I can understand why ur worried but there is a reason why u asked for that space. Hopefully he will give u that opportunity to explain why. Hugs!
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@AuraXP I can relate to this 100%. What we have to remember is we can only control ourselves, no one else. Pause your fear for a moment if you can, nothing good happens when you are motivated by fear. Realize that whenever is meant to be will always be, what is not meant to be will never be no matter what. Give your feelings form, write them out, speak them out, write a song, paint, whatever floats your boat and feels the rightest (yes that’s the word 
). Remember that you are safe and you are sober. Everything really will be ok. 
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This right here… beautifully written. I feel this when it comes to having faith that everything will turn out the way it should. Fear or faith in my HP.
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