So, just over a month sober 33 days to be exact and my wife of 20 years tells me she wants to split. Not the first time over the years she has mentioned, not sure if during my active time I just did not believe. Nevertheless this time I believe it. Makes me wonder what is the point of all of this??? The woman I love is the one I’ve hurt the most and she has had enough. I’m afraid and I also do not want to relapse. When I think I’m putting all the effort in the world. I feel so powerless
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I hope what I’m about to say helps. You have to ask yourself WHY are you trying to get sober? We all have our reasons. I think what I’m coming to find out is that I want to get sober for me. ME!! I do understand that people give up on us. We’ve hurt them, over and over and they remember that. Some don’t see us in no other light than being a drunk. Sometimes our paths separate… and seasons change. Stay the course, do your part and take responsibility for you. Continue to love her and listen above all … in the end it will work out… but you have to stay the course. Hopefully this helps.
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If she says she wants it believe it, it not to be negative but the only way to show her you mean it this time that you will change us to show the actions too. You have to stay true to recovery, trust me when I say if you concentrate on you everything else falks into place. You can’t throw recovery away when you can not predict the future but you know that all the drinking has brought you to this place and it’s damn uncomfortable. Is it really worth going back there when a better life is ahead. He’ll nobody will tell you its easy but they will tell you it’s damn worth it
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Don’t let the alcoholic voice trick you into drinking because of bad circumstances.
Drinking won’t help or improve the situation.
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I don’t get it. Why is this so difficult? I know where drinking will take me and yet it is the one thing that comes to mind. It’s as if I gotta have it to survive.
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It’s a horrible thing!
It’s because it’s a physically addictive substance, it is literally physically addictive and yet marketed to us as this lifestyle choice.
It is going to take work to get the time in to remove some of the physical addiction pathways from your brain! But you can do it.