How do I deal with big feelings

So hi. Its kinda a long story and idk if I/we have mentioned it on here but due to all the trauma endured in childhood i developed DID. Amanda is the alter who made this account/mainly posts on here but some of the others do too. Im Susie and cause of all the scary stuff that happened before im kinda stuck at the age of 4. I keep having all these big feelings and its been hard coping with everything, especially now that we’re sober and weve all agreed not to drink anymore. I dont know how to deal with the flashbacks and stuff, i just get so overwhelmed by it all. We see our therapist again Thursday but i just wanna find some ways in the meantime to deal with feeling small and scared all the time. Sorry if this isnt a good place for this, i know Amanda posts on here when shes not doing good so i wanted to try it too. Thanks lots in advance.

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Hi Susie, nice to meet you!
I’m Claudia :raising_hand_woman:

It was a good idea of you to come here and sure it’s the right place to share.
I’m sorry that you are not feeling ok right now. Venting helps me when I feel overwhelmed, and doing something active that makes me tired is my second to go to.
A lot of people up here on TS are sleeping right now. You will have loads of support within a few houres when they wake up.
Hope you will feel a bit better soon!

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Hi, I’m Sophia.
I’m sorry you have to go through all this.
What you can try to get through a flashback, or a nightmare is trying to ground yourself. Focus on something that’s here and now, it might be a flower pot, it might be a dot, a straw of grass, basically whatever that’s close to you when it happens works.
Focus on that, and try to think that you are here now, and that you are safe. You are not back, but right here in this moment, and try to steer the thought to other things around you that actually proves that you are indeed safe.

Nightmares works pretty much the same way. Of you can’t sleep after a nightmare, don’t stay in the bed trying. Get up, and try to ground yourself. And don’t forget to breath. If you can’t find anything here and now to focus on, focus on breathing.

Another thing that also helps, and believe me I know it’s not as easy as it sounds, is to talk about it. The more you talk, the more of the shame and freight will disappear with time. You’ll still have flashbacks, you’ll still have nightmares, but eventually it won’t knock you out as it does now.

And of course,listen to your therapist/psychologist they might have more and better ideas and treatments for you to try.

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