I have a question. How has everyone’s sex drive been affected when you quit drinking? Mines at an all time high, and I’m single as all get out so that’s fun…. I’m just wondering how it’s affected everyone else?
I’ve only had sober sex one time probably in the last 6 years and that’s really embarrassing to think about.
It’s the dopamine. Sex drive gets high. Body needs other things to get high on.
Although alcohol isn’t my DOC I notice that my sex drive is more “focused” now. I don’t know if it’s higher or lower - but I’m more present and I’m more aware.
There’s lots of other threads about sex drive after getting sober. Search “sober sex” or a similar term in the search bar and you’ll find them.
Sobriety is a journey! Take it one day at a time & stay grounded. Be healthy & me kind to yourself, and you’ll be ok 
I didn’t realize bc I guess I thought it would be lower. Who knew! Thanks for the info!
Mines still always there. Unfunnily enough my partners seems to be gone since I stopped.
Drive was always high….BUUUTTTT… lol I’m 38 and I learned last year that I never had sober sex! So when I did I had MAJOR performance anxiety 
I worked it out by working with my therapist and doing step 4 (moral/fear/sex inventory) I say that to say this, getting clean is a fucking trip! Lol it works if you work it lol much love fam thank you for sharing
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For me to be sober changes the handling of balancing mine and my partner’s sexual desires. Usually I wanted and still want more sex than he. In sober me this causes lower frustration and better understanding than in drunk me. I also feel ok with my own sexual energy and can cope with the fact that wants often are not supplied. When I’m sober it’s ok 
I think it is about confidence in self when doing well, it naturally transfers into your sexual energy and sense of self
Id have to say alot more in tuned, like maintenance on a vehicle seems to run more efficiently when you take care of it keep it running. Things last longer if we do the up keep, so i guess in the long run just like our lives we need exercise to keep healthy and moving.
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@Alyssaflory Great question. Mine is better and higher than ever. I feel more focused and in the moment. Drunk sex is exactly that and vastly different from being in your body and making love, really connecting with your partner on an emotional and spiritual level, as opposed to f*cking.
Having that focus and attention has meant I can “feel myself” much quicker in to an orgasm and when it happens it is huge and intense. Being sober you just feel everything SO much more.
Needless to say my husband loves it. He knows I need to keep chill and happy, so he is only to happy to oblige 
. The combination of dopamine and oxytocin is quite a rush.
Now I know that for some people certain drugs enhance everything (and that’s their choice) but thank God I can have natural drugs within my body without self destructing 
I’m never going to be into extreme sports, so this is my new HIGH 
Initially in the early stages of sobriety I felt inhibited and “shy” without alcohol to lower my inhibitions and help me relax. It felt like I had lost my sex drive. But really what it was is that my body was a stranger to me. I’m post menopause and I couldn’t hardly remember what sex was like sober. It took a bit for me to just relax, get out of my head and let myself just explore this new wonder. Having done that…it’s as @Cherry_Kisses says and there’s a new intimacy and higher level of connection.
Wow sex drive lol.My DOC really did a number on me health wise and my “sex drive” is non-existent.It has gone away on vacation for awhile but thankfully I’m alright with that.For me there’s more important things i need to focus on.By all means though for you guys getting it in congratulations and please use protection.
I haven’t had a sex drive at all since I got out of rehab in February. I do have a ton of stress on my plate right now, but usually even when stressed I’d still have thoughts about sleeping with someone if I find them attractive. I’ve even had a woman that’s been staying the night several times per week and she’s pretty attractive. It could be the depression, could be the fact that I’m newly sober and was probably only sober for a total of a year and a half or so throughout the last 20 years. I don’t know, I’m just hoping it doesn’t last long