How long does it take to get over being dumped

I was dumped in early sobriety last year, about 7 months ago. Still really getting to me at times. Still hurts. Usually gets to me more when I’m having a bad day or things aren’t going my way. I’m a Christian and it’s hard for me to use another relationship to get over someone or anything like that. And I tend to fall for people really quickly I have a lot of love to give. I’m Aquarius. Any suggestions anyone? Thanks.

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Some relationships I feel you never fully get over. But time goes on and sooner or later you will move on. You’ll find another love that isn’t being used as a replacement and your life will change. But you’ll always have that spot for this love. Get what I’m sayin?

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It’s totally depends. Some people can do it in weeks or months. Some in years, and some never.

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12 step program is good for figuring out those emotions

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Getting over someone you dearly care for or love is heart shattering,it seems to feel our mind with memory’s of the better times then we feel sad BC we have lost that ,I got clean this time after I was used in a sense but for me I let down my guard and when it ended I fell to peices not BC I loved him bt I let my guard down with him but I feel I was meant to meet him that was meant to happen so I can be here today in away if it wasn’t for him I may of not got as bitterly low as I had and I wouldn’t of reach out whilst drowning in my own emotions ,try to move on the best you can and now we leave clean and sober life’s in time we will love again, apologies if I affended you yesterday that was not my intention.

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Water under the bridge, I woke up a bit crabby and I tend to be very defensive of aa. But you and the other commenter were right. The tread was about individuals favourite aa sayings, I like the saying but it’s not an official aa saying as such. Something I heard from a member with 55 years sobriety who’s a great asset to our local fellowship. Anyway in a roundabout way I’m saying no offence taken and I apologise for the way I reacted. And thanks for the support here. I haven’t had the best of days and as you saw I didn’t start it off on a great note. I sincerely hope not to have this happen in the future and I have learnt something. Much love :heart:

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Completely Duncan I’m glad we’re bigger and better ppl today to say sorry and move on,have a lovely Sunday🙏

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@DuncanNZ and @Lilemm, you two just made my day!! And I am glad you are feeling more positive today. I think we all know it is a rough time for us all and tensions can quickly escalate. Getting a good night’s sleep restores and refreshes us. Happy dance!

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I broke up with a guy and realize it was a mistake that I will have to live with the rest of my life. I sure hope my current spouse never joins TS.
Take care and try to live in the moment.

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