Hi folks
I was doing so well, nearly reached the 2 week mark. Then yesterday, a trigger and just gave into it. Got 11 cans of cider. Reset my sobriety clock this morning. My question to anybody on here is, how do you move on from lapses or relapses. Just annoyed thst I gave in and it bugs me 
As many times as necessary to strengthen your conviction. Maintaining abstinence does not come easily. You are the one who chooses. There are many tools available to you on TS and elsewhere. It is a daily effort that requires working on yourself one day at a time.
My honest answer is … (based on my experience) … one keeps relapsing until either You make the decision to stop (because something is more important than the urge/need/desire to pick up) - or - because an outside influence steps in and you have no choice. I personally had the scare of my life and haven’t drank since. What I can say is I wish I had stopped when I knew I needed to vs waiting. It is hard to lead a day to day sober life. But as so many people shared here, it is even harder when you don’t … so why not just log in the day. Each day “won” of being sober vs “giving in” creates a self belief and confidence you wouldn’t otherwise have. Slowly these days build up and life changes and you see/know/feel why so many people say, it’s worth it! Because it is. Thank you for all the question. I asked the same for a long time. 
Many thanks for those helpful and supportive words. They have really helped me get on with my sober day. Im going to continue to ckimb that mountain. 
thanks again and wishing your journey a happy and healthy one.
Thank you so much. Yrs, im starting to learn now that its up to me to beat these triggers. I know I can do it. And im not going to let it beat me. Thank you for your advice too
When the thing you just lost, or the thing you are about to lose, is more important to you than the drink, that is the only moment that you can surrender, ask for help, receive the help, and do what is suggested.
We grow our sobriety at different paces and in different ways. Every sobriety journey, though, begins every day with this decision, “I will not drink today, no matter what.”, and a plan of action to carry through on that decision. Feeling like you are doing good is not adequate, hoping is not adequate. If you move a muscle, they say, you change a thought. Take action.
Do not discount any possible avenue - medication, AA, SMART or Dharma Recovery, or daily and frequent check-ins on Talking Sober - find out what people with stable sobriety do, and then do those things.