“How to be sober” is a perfect title. We are all figuring this out, every day. It’s like learning how to cook. You start with simple things, then learn more, and more, and over the course of your life you gather a bunch of cool recipes and tips and tricks to live a healthy, interesting life - sober.
Learning how to cook requires (in my experience) at least two things: (1) finding the ingredients, and (2) finding the knowledge.
Both of those things are outside the house. You gotta go meet people and learn from people. (You can learn online too, there’s lots of online learning and meetings, about cooking and about sobriety.)
You can do it Haley. Not alone - none of us can do it alone - but by reaching out for help and for mentorship, and then taking that advice and following it, you will find that your life changes.
I know you have a long history of drinking and you feel really discouraged and down. You probably feel like you’re never gonna be able to figure it out. That’s normal (we have all been there). It is true that we can’t figure it out on our own. But when we reach out to connect with other people in recovery - like here on Talking Sober, or by learning from the groups and podcasts and books on this thread: Resources for our recovery - we gradually figure it out, with support, and we practice under these “coaches” who are helping us practice, and we stay honest and accountable, and we get better at it.
Welcome to Talking Sober! 
