Any advice would be appreciated… I am struggling to set myself boundaries, to value myself and to actually make good decisions.
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Welcome Mya. Glad u found us! Great job on reaching out for support.
To be completely honest, when I broke up with my ex (who was abusive to me but we also shared a trauma bond and were both addicted to drugs), I had to completely part ways and distance myself from him. Alot of healing happened when i put that distance between us. For me anyway, it was the only way to heal and overcome that trauma bond. And then being on my own, i was able to seek the help I needed to get clean and sober without having the distraction of my ex around.
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Hi Mya - I’m finally trying to move away from my trauma bonded relationship as well, today is day 1 or the start of my journey at least.
I don’t know how to detach myself from my relationship. It feels very hard, almost impossible.
My plan is to lean on this forum and hope that I can get free that way. I’m not sure even what kind of addiction I have or if there are any in person groups for my problem. But I know I have one.
I hope this forum can help you too…maybe in person NA meetings would help for your narcotics addiction?
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@myamarie Welcome to TS Mya! I’m glad you’re here, it was very brave of you to post asking for help.
I’ve never personally experienced this, but I can offer some suggestions:
- Find local recovery meetings and replace the relationship with relationships with other recovering people
- Focus on your recovery and keep your mind occupied instead of thinking about the break up
- replace your using with other healthy activities like walking, reading, journaling, watching TV, anything other than using
- prayer/meditation
- avoid people/places/things that might trigger your addiction
- make changes in your life and in your behaviors so it feels like a new routine
- reach out when you’re struggling
stay active on here and keep us close
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