Remember it’s not your problem that someone wants to drink poison.
If they were hurting their bodies with heroin, cocain or drinking 
petrol and they were trying to convince you to join in would you?
People want to see you do well in life but not as well as them.
Hi @Bradleyduggan86 , thanks! Right, when you put other poison names instead of alcohol the choice seems so clear 
Well, could be they don’t want me to do that great but I’m having a hard time picturing that. That would be so terrible in fact
Be strong, it’s not worth picking up again,and again and again…
Personally, I had had enough of alcohol and stayed away from friends who drink for over 2 months, when i did finally meet up with a friend I had a bottle of coke as a treat , had some food with them,watched them open red wine bottle after red wine, and then listen to them while they said they wished they could stop drinking for 2 months,so I just carried the message by carrying myself through the night sober and absolutely fine with life and went to bed pleasantly with no hangover in the morning 
The worst part is to listen to their drunk talk at the end of parties. Even if in a way, it helped me to stay away from booze. I was like “wut wut, nobody cares about that man, and you won’t even remember it tomorrow anyway”
Welcome. I’ve read your responses to others and if your friends are good friends, as you say, then I would suggest sitting down with them one-on-on, at a point when it’s not a party (maybe meet over a coffee or something) and tell them your concerns. I would also suggest not going to anything with them where there will be alcohol, and when you meet with them let them know about your plan, why, and then reassure them that you still care about then and see how you can plan things with them that won’t involve alcohol. If they are good friends, this will go over well.
Something to remember here is that, in the heat of the moment, your friends are acting on old patterns that have been built up over time. You need to create new patterns with them that don’t involve alcohol. If they are drinking, then old patterns will be followed in the brain and because you’re their friend, they want you to have “fun” with them.
If you’re able to create situations with these two friends that don’t involve alcohol, things that are fun, you might even be helping them in the process. After all, drinking will not help their break up, and it won’t actually help them deal with their feelings about it.
I wish you the very best.
Great question, I’ve been wondering the same…my husband is also a heavy drinker…I am hoping I am strong enough to avoid temptation
Hey @Pat_m! Nice to read that you know what I’m talking about. I mean, not that nice because this wine culture can be a pain for sober people but what can we do? Oh winemakers in the family, that must be so though for you. Kudos for your strength!
Yeah I hope my friends will get use to that part of me ! And if not I’ll be fine as well a little further from them in those occasions.
Hi @Hazy
Actually the idea of having a nice evening, feeling ok with ourselves, going to bed and waking up feeling good and not hangover is enough motivation to carry on my path and avoid going to drinking events for a while! Thanks 
I discovered those non sense drunk talks @Pat_m, then I thought waaaaw, that is so strange, I felt stupid to have been acting like that in the past!
Thank you for these nice advices @Chiron . Actually that worked great so far. I’ve had them over this afternoon to do their make up and help them get ready for their Halloween party tonight. We had a fun time, they left happy to the bar and I stayed home, quite excited about my PJs and movie night . I’ll try to make these new habits with them more often.
Yes @H123 , Julyet truly wants peace in staying sober! No questions about that! I don’t questions their behaviors or the way they handle their emotions, I believe it belongs to them. Of course of they reach out or ask my help I’ll be glad to be there, but for now they are rather happy with their patterns so 
Hello @JBug , that must be really though for you. I send you my support. I feel lucky mine is not drinking, I am already not the best to deal with my friends while they drink and encourage me to do the same… Good luck! Probably some of the answers in this topic can expand to romantic relationship as well and give you some ideas to stay focused?
My husband has also cut back which is great support, perhaps he will quit too…he needs to more than I do
He’s been very supportive and I am truely blessed in my relationship in all ways 
JBug
Thank you so much for your support and time to comment too
JBUG
Who knows, maybe you are inspiring him to eventually quit? I’m happy to comment, this place seems like a great opportunity to support each other, I’ve felt comforted by all the comments and advices already after one day being here! Thanks to you too
I’m so happy to hear this! I’m so glad you and your friends had a good time together. You’re already a pro. 
Well, i’m the blacksheep of my family 
To be honest they respect that. For years now they always ask if I want a glass or not. My main problem was THC, I resolved it like 4 or 5 years ago. I also quit drinking, because like a lot of people here when I drink, I don’t have limits. Recently, since my life was burnt to ashes, I took a few binges and felt even shittier. So I’ve come to the conclusion that a sober life would be better for me…
My friends understand my choice, some more than others, but I don’t care, they’re nice and already accept my diet coke order at bars.
(Been ages till I wrote so much english, must be painfull to read)
Yep.
I had drinking buddies that were really just drinking buddies. Maybe if there’d been more to it than that (sometimes there was), we’d still hang out. No hard feelings, just the more time I had sober the more I realized I wanted to do more than pass the time getting blotto.
But I was fortunate to have equally many friends where drinking wasn’t the main attraction. Funny how once I sobered up I found myself spending more time with them. Some I met in recovery, and some were “normies” I’d known for years (they drink sometimes, but it isn’t a pastime).
What the ones had in common who I stuck to was the overall courage to try to keep getting better at getting better everyday, and to always appreciate what’s right in front of them even (and especially) on the bad days.
Find the people who “have what you want” and do what they do. And if we’re very lucky, we’ll find some great friendships in the process.
Someone told me to do this early on and it was the best advice. Not only are these people a great support system, they’ve become dear friends. The friendships I’ve made in recovery are like no other. They’re so authentic and relatable.