How to gain self confidence again after relapsing

Good day to my new brothers and sisters…
I was sober for two months.but i relapsed and i want to find myself again…i hate alcohol

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Welcome to the community :raising_hand_woman:

Have you tried any support groups ? There are many online meetings to help you get through, especially those first few weeks.
Keep reaching out here for support and encouragement.

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Thank you for welcoming me. I am looking forward to be the part of the family…it my first day joining the family.
I hope it get help and support

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It’s great your with us, together we are definitely stronger :slightly_smiling_face:

Allot of us check in daily here, maybe take a look its a good way to get to know more of us and we all share parts of our journey together.

Checking in and sharing is very helpful. I have not been here very long…but feel very welcomed. :grinning:

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Hello friend. What did you do to earn two months sober? That’s excellent work! I wish I could get past 3 or even 5 days and I can’t seem to. I did meetings but I started using zoom instead- I’ve got do a better job processing high risk situations and thoughts…

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You can do this, and stay on here, it’s a great place lots of help, your not alone :muscle:

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Alcohol/addiction is just the symptom of our disease. I personally had to unpack all my bullshit, and boy… there wasn’t enough shovels by myself. I had a bunch of unresolved conflict, resentments, anger, guilt and shame. I needed help! I had to seek something greater than myself will to find a solution. I was stuck in my own vicious cycle of hell. I had to start working a program to get results and make progress. Not drinking isn’t being sober for me.

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I hate alcohol too. You aren’t a failure because you relapsed you just haven’t unlocked your addiction puzzle yet.
There are a lot of wise people on this site who are very successful at staying sober. Early in my days here I was told that I can only control my first drink. Once I have that first drink it leads to 3 drinks and then 6 drinks and then all the drinks my body can hold. So don’t take that first drink. Everyday.
When a drink sounds tempting or you start to think you will just have one drink and stop get on this site and ask for help.
Make your goal to put a sober head on your pillow every night and use the good people here to keep you accountable. Welcome, get to quitting. :heart: It’s really nice on the sober side. Let us know what you need.

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I love this, and it’s so true. We all have different paths to recovery, but there are similarities in all of our paths. Getting a good recovery plan in place is key. Glad you are here and welcome!

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It takes a while to click but when it does there is a freedom. I like knowing that I cannot drink anymore, trying to moderate was exhausting. The key for me is to know that the first drink is never one and it’s really never a drink, it’s an escape. No more first drinks and no more escape gives me the best present. :face_with_hand_over_mouth::gift:

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I truly believe i got so used to escaping i didnt really know what i was even trying to escape from or if it was even necessary in the end lol crazy times

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Exactly! It takes a few days or weeks to realize what you were even trying to avoid in the first place.

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