Hi everyone,
quick question to males who try to get rid of PMO/MO habit.
I started my sobriety, it’s beginning, but if I thrive, sooner or later I could have wet dream and emission. It’s ok when I’m in my own place, but it’s a problem when you go home for e.g. Christmas. How do you handle this eh… inconvenience?
It might be stupid, but in the past it caused return to MO in order to prevent “mess” later during night and fear/shame etc.
Keep a glass of water beside your bed while you’re at your family’s place, because you are thirsty. If it happens, then spill some water on your sheets, and then that’s the reason you need to change your sheets: you had a drink of water and spilled some of it.
Not a bad idea! In the past I just used toilet paper, but surprisingly it’s not very absorbent…
I know the whole idea might be stupid, but there was shame involved which caused returning to bad habit. We have not a big apartment, so sometimes, when family gather for Christmas, I need to share a room with parents.
On the other side mind is sometimes tricky: maybe it was also an excuse - do this now, and you will avoid mess and shame later…
Why not just do the laundry yourself?
Personally I find that shame creates a lot of problems and facing that shame directly eliminates its power. Shame only has power as long as we let it have power.
Laundry and cleaning mess is generally not a problem, I am “afraid” of being seen with stains on underwear and bed, it would be really repulsive for them.
But I get your idea with facing shame - maybe I should prepare them: I face such problem, it may cause this and that, so don’t be surprised…
Exactly. The whole reason this is happening is because you are working towards a healthy sober life for yourself. What’s the problem? They would be happy to see you finding a healthy balance. 
Generally I’m happy if such things happen - I’ve heard that when you have an emission it’s a sign your health is improving. And it’s good to see that body is still working.
But it may also be “nice guy syndrome” problem - they want to control almost everything and want to hide that their bodies have needs. I decided to assume that I can’t control it and I will leave it to God/nature - maybe that thought will remove the pressure.