I’ve been trying to get sober for years now. I’ve attended AA, NA, had sponsors, used anti drink meds but I’ve still not figured put how to stop being impulsive and drinking. I’m waiting on an ASD and ADHD assessment, and I know this is linked to drink issues/impulsivity, so maybe that is affecting things. I just really want to get sober for good so I can get on with my life. Any ideas or suggestions everyone? The longest I’ve gone is 67 days. I want to post 1 year celebration posts on here etc! Cheers x
8 Likes
Meditation and breathwork can help rewire your patterns. They are not a quick fix but can impact every aspect of your life if you are willing to practice and open up to what is possible for you. It’s so easy to get stuck defining yourself by your past, and I think the only way to change that is to bypass the mind with some kind of practice that helps you heal and get unstuck.
4 Likes
ADHD was certainly a factor for me. Untreated ADHD leads to a lot of self-medicating with addiction.
Getting treatment for the ADHD was helpful but I needed group help too, addiction recovery groups. I stepped outside my comfort zone there and jumped into the activities even though they were outside my habits.
I got marriage counselling with my wife and that has really helped me feel like I belong and am accepted and seen. In a way it’s also helped me accept and see myself.
Don’t give up. Life is always one step, one little movement at a time.
6 Likes
Hey, thank you for sharing those ideas. I have loved meditation and mindfulness in the past. Since starting uni life has been so stressful, I’m going to start trying again though as it really does help xxx
1 Like
Hey, thank you… I like hearing when people have gotten past things. Hearing your story gives me some hope. I definitely need to start attending meetings again as they do help. I’ve been piling loads of additional stress on my plate by working too many hours on top of uni as well, basically doing all the things that lead to relapse. Glad things got sorted with your wife that’s ace. Take care 
1 Like
I’m in the same boat as you my friend, well other than the meds and AA. But what I find helps, is surrounding yourself with people who aren’t gonna make you want to drink. (Not saying drop any friends who have a beer on occasion) but start meeting people who are gonna want to go out and do things other than drinking. Even going to church, or becoming a part of a community (much like this) and sticking with it until it’s routine. Also don’t look at the booze as a temptation, but remember that you are the one in charge, and that the drinking is only making you feel bad. I hope everything gets better for you my friend, and hopefully I was able to help a little. Cheers
1 Like
Fuck it, I’m drinking! Where did giving into that urge take me? Did I EVER end up better off by taking that route?
A list of pros and cons helped me get through the early days. I wrote it while sober and no urge was coursing through my veins. When the “fuck it” thoughts came I whipped it out.
Soon I added a benefits of sobriety column. The “fuck it” thoughts came less and less frequently. By the grace of God I don’t have that thought EVER now!
Hope this helps - You’re stronger than you think you are! 