I could drink almost a bottle of vodka throughout a day and nobody notice which I’m really not proud of. One of my son’s asked for a lift out one night and I had to make excuses not to as I had been drinking but he didn’t know. I hate the lies, I hate what alcohol does to me, I want to he a better person
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Day 2!! Thank you for your kind words.
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I am on day 2! And it’s a baby step but I am proud. I sure will have to really keep myself busy over the weekend. Friday’s are what would have been my hard drinking night. Tonight I plan to clean my house with the music blasting! I know I can do this. We can all do this together! Such great support in here!!! 
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Be proud of every sober day
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I have been there and done that. It is a terrible feeling. Once I had an argument about not wanting to drive because I knew I just needed to have that drink soon and if I were to drive, then I wouldn’t be able to drink. I lied my way through it and I felt like crap through the whole lie and all the drinking that I did that night. What was the worst part, my son missed out on something because I refused to drive. I chose alcohol over my son. 
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Thank You, I feel absolutely amazing today. No shakes, no headache, no sunglasses to hide my hangover face. No halls, gum or mint to cover the smell of booze! I feel like I am free. 
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Remember this feeling! When temptation strikes, remember today!
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I’ve lied about not wanting to drive too, my excuse was I can’t see very well in the dark and it makes me nervous. Most of the time he prefers to drive but I know every now and then he likes to have a drink. Last time I drove I was really miserable half way through the evening, bored and didn’t want to talk to anyone and told him I felt ill and had a headache and wanted to go home, he believed me and we left. I feel shit that I do this to him because he is so good to me.
I’m the same way. The only one who knows the extent of my drinking is my husband. It’s scary how well I can hide how terribly I was suffering. And for that exact reason I convinced myself it wasn’t a problem. When I told my sister I had a problem she didn’t believe me. I said “Is 8 tall cans normal” her response was “on a night out once in awhile, no not at all”… “nope, just a normal week night for me”. Her jaw dropped.
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This is a big step for you, admitting that you have a problem. So go easy on yourself. We’ve all got horror stories in our past but we can grow and learn from them. But if I start to dwell on all the horrible things I did, I’ll never move on from it. I’m not saying it will be easy. Or that you’ll just wake up and feel great. But you will start to feel better. You’ll start to feel clearer. And then these feelings of shame will pass. You’ll be okay friend 
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Thank you so Much, I am so inlove with today that I don’t want it to end. But I have an issue that I really need some good advice on. I have a party to attend tomorrow, everyone is looking forward to me being there! But they don’t know about my drinking problem nor do they know I quit. I don’t want them to know, but they will question me if I am not drinking. I thought about buying alcohol free drinks but I’m not really even interested in doing that. Plus, they all say non-alcoholic… how can I even hide that. I’m not ready to talk about this with my friends and family…please help…
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Hi!! I am working on day 6. It is hard but you came to the right place. I have a 2 year old and a 5 year old. I have been drinking and driving with them, gotten into stupid arguments with my friends and SO, missed work due to being hungover, and done things I greatly regret. You are among friends here. Today is the first day of the rest of your life congratulations!!! The drunk mommy will be a distant memory one day. Hang in there. You can do it. One day at a time. Don’t think about tomorrow or the next day or the next…just focus on this moment. And reach out to us! I almost fell off yesterday but this awesome community kept me afloat and I am SO thankful. Have a great day at work . And drink plenty of fluids 
Jessica
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Tell them you are on antibiotics for an ingrown infected toenail or something lol. Can’t drink due to meds. Gotta get rid of this infection lol. Tell them when you’re ready. Don’t let them talk you out of this great choice you have made!! Or come up with some reason you can’t go - mom got a flat tire, son is sick, you got a better invite somewhere else…
Jessica
You could just say that you’re not drinking. Or say no thanks. I don’t think most people would think twice about a No Thanks when offered something. In the least, they wouldn’t pry.
I would definitely have people prying. Everyone knows me with a beer can in my hand. At least they used to. I’m on day 6 now. My closest friends know that I’m staying sober and I stay away from everyone else. Fortunately I don’t drink around my family (parents and such) so that’s not a big deal. But my mom knows what I’m going through. I send her a screen shot every time I reach a goal. She’s my biggest cheerleader and also holds me accountable.
Jessica
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Well, that’s tricky. You could just say that you’re trying to cut back and watch your caloric intake. Trying some new diet stuff. Beer is certainly not good for ones weight. Trying to be more healthy. It’s definitely not a lie.
As I said in the chat portion, Day one is your most important day. Without day 1, recovery isn’t even a possibility. I’m 78 days without a drink. I drank daily for nearly 20 years. Remember who or what you’re doing this for, but more importantly do it for yourself. If you don’t do it for yourself, you’ll never be the parent you know your child deserves. I realized that early on in my recovery, and I haven’t looked back.
I would quit drinking until the withdrawal symptoms started. Eventually I knew I would have to medically detox if I even wanted a shot at recovery. Stay strong, and don’t give up! This is a battle you can win.
Day 2 again… and I’m still not sure why I am here
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Pretty sure you are here because you dont want the life you’re living. Just like the rest of us. We’ve banded together, because our lives were a mess and we hated what we became. You are one of us. A broken person trying to piece your life back together.
The fortunate thing is that there’s hope for a brighter day. You are on day 2, sure. But, that’s 2 days of not using. Focus on a day at a time. Turn it into 3, then 4. As we focus on sobriety and improving on a constant, deliberate basis, our nature changes.
You have infinite potential, you’re not just a broken tool. You can be reforged into a tool of power and good.
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Birds of a feather… you know the rest.0
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