Currently on my second day of being sober. I am feeling very fearful of the coming weekend knowing that’s when i’ma be feeling the urges to drink some more. I do plan to go to the movies on Friday and Saturday night with my fiancè but i know it’s gonna be a very trying time before we go and i do plan to attend an AA meeting on Sunday i just have no idea what am i gonna do for some semblance of a social life without alcohol because the isolation and loneliness is what got me here in the first place and if that isn’t attended to then i’ma eventually end up right back where i started
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You made it through day one, which is BIG, you can make it through any other day too Arianna. I see in your bio you already have some great hobbies ( I see movies, the gym, learning Italian, music). All stuff you can do sober and socialize with too right? AA in itself is a social activity. Maybe you can look for a learning Italian social club? I was afraid for my first sober concert but it turned out great. No waiting in line for the bar, remembering the music, remembering the whole show and experience. You got days to go for the weekend, you can come up with stuff. You’re stronger and more resourceful than you think. Don’t let alcohol and addiction make you think otherwise. You can hang with us too BTW 
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AA is a fellowship youl meet new friends you can socialize with it will surprise you how sober people enjoy their lives wish you well
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Some of my best friends are people I met in my sober groups. I attend a twelve-step group. There are other groups too, like Recovery Dharma and SMART Recovery. What I love about my friendships from those groups is they understand me deeply. I don’t have to pretend or hide.
Take it one day at a time and if you need a safe space, join an online meeting (if you can’t get to a physical one). Search “online AA meeting” or “marathon AA meeting” and you’ll be able to find some meetings going on. They’re on 24 hours a day because they happen worldwide.
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There are plenty of Italians online offering lessons at varying prices (course we know why i could almost never afford it, despite it being very useful to my language learning goals). I’m hopefully gonna figure something out this weekend cause i’m tired of spending all my weekends feeling anxious and crappy
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If your head gets too noisy, listen to some sobriety podcasts or audiobooks. The Shair podcast was amazing for as was “This Naked Mind” by Annie Grace. AA will give you socialization in sobriety. If the meeting you go to isn’t a fit, try another one. You can do this because a bunch of us have. Your life will be light years better in sobriety. Best wishes.
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