I don’t really trust myself yet in the circumstances I’ll be in tomorrow, and again next weekend- does anyone have any (kind) motivating words, support, or reminders to keep the drink away from the face? My anxiety has been wild lately and I’m struggling to keep the perspective i know i need to have. Thank you so much for reading if you came this far.
-maddie
Hey Maddie.
I don’t know what circumstances you’re going to be in tomorrow, but ; Don’t go!!
Find a meeting.
This helped me a lot when I thought I might want to drink.
Chapter 3. Put it on and listen to it over and over again.
We got your back.
Check in when you can.
@Madds I agree with @Dazercat if you don’t trust yourself… dont go… I wouldn’t. Is it very important? xxx
Don’t go! There’s nothing more important than your sobriety and well being.
In my life, anxiety has come mostly when I’m not in sync with my values: when I’m doing things that are risky for me, risky of crossing healthy boundaries.
I sometimes have felt like I’m two people: one saying “I should go” and one saying “I shouldn’t go”.
What I have found peaceful about my sobriety is that I understand my safety is more important than anything. If I need to shelter myself and stay home - like a baby tree protected from a bitterly cold winter (protected under a shelter) - then that is the right thing to do for me, to keep me safe. Everything else will work itself out.
Your stronger then that, you halve to remember there always something out there that’s going to test your sobriety. Temptation is always going to be there. But your stronger then any temptation. I believe in you!
Don’t go when you don’t trust yourself. Come up with an excuse. There’s a flu epidemic going on for example. Hugs.
Do. not. go.
If it doesn’t feel safe: stay home, stay safe.
If you don’t trust yourself: Stay in a safe setting and pump up your sobriety and coping with life tools instead of testing the waters.
You miss nothing. Nobody will remember if you were there in a year.
Stay safe, keep yourself sober, free of anxiety and let pass what’s not feeling right. 
How are you doing today? Community is always active and here for you if you feel overwhelmed.
If possible then skip the event or gathering. People will understand but trying to recover from a relapse may not be easy
If you can’t back out then I suggest having an escape plan or at least being able to remove yourself for a period to possibly come here or log into a online meeting or listen to a motivational podcast. Keep a reminder of why you are sober and know that drinking will only escalate the anxiety. Drink non alcoholic beverages so you always have something in hand and don’t get FOMO or asked for a drink.
You are not alone…we got your back!
Thank you so much everyone. 50 days today, 51 tomorrow. I’m still going, still working at it, and I’ll get through next weekend next weekend. Sorry to disrupt. Thank you all again for your help.
Great to see your update 
. 50 days strong. This is the exact place to come to when you have the slightest urge or doubts. I find that just venting here makes me feel lighter and more at ease with whatever situation I am dealing with.
Another day conquered 
. Way to go Madeline
Good work. I skipped a couple of functions early on. Then found that things I was anxious about once I was there was fine.
Great stuff staying sober, next will hopefully be easier.
Well done @Madds xxx keep us updated please
Thats so true, it can be just so much easier than what we imagined, in fact you never know where the craving can come from.
Happy to read that you put a sober head on the pillow 
Congrats on 50 days 
This is very helpful thank you!
Congratulations on your 50 days Madds
Sorry I’m late. 52 now 
You are amazing 
Thank you so much! I’m late to respond, so 53 now. Thanks for being so kind @Dazercat 
Well done! Keep going strong