I don't know if I'd do this without my wife

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Me and my wife are happily married and I’m 2 weeks sober and 6 days without a cigg/vape

Be4 that I was a heavy drinker a heavy pot smoker and getting into some bad things
I guess I didn’t feel to good about myself because I was really treating myself like trash.

Do I look at myself like trash?
I guess I don’t know. She makes me feel strong and loved

Do I love myself?
Yeah I think

Do I love her more then myself?
Solid yes on this one

As I look at these questions I can see I don’t think too high of myself. As a matter of fact if I can’t stay sober without her, I won’t be able to stay sober.
I should look at her like a piece of me which makes me think I should treat her the way I’d like to be treated. That’s actually huge for me. I should talk to her with compassion when I get up tight and help her any way I can

Then communicate with her the way I’d like to be treated. Communicate with compassion and empathy because I love her and if I love her, I love me for loving her

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This is lovely. Remember that she loves you. You are worthy of that love. Recovery helped me learn to love myself again. Huge gift.

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I really think that you are doing so well in your recovery and am grateful that you have such a supportive and loving wife to help you in your recovery.

I think our DOC slowly eat away at us physically and emotionally and our self confidence goes with our health. I do know that as you stack up the days of being addiction free the stronger. You will then have the energy for selfcare and being to love yourself.