I keep quitting the alcohol. Few day maybe a week and I feel good after getting a little time. Then ill start drinking again and I don’t know why. And ill drink alot when I slip. I don’t want to drink and go through this anymore. It seems to get harder every time loke its eating my soul.
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Im on a stupid number of resets myself and what you say really reaonates with me.
Im now at 2 months off everything. Its been years since i got to this being the time that sticks thus far. Though humble enough to know its a daily battle. As someone said yesterday ( forgot who but somewhere on this community)
“No matter how far down the road you are. Your still the same distance from the gutter”
I see youve been a member since Nov 2024 and only read/ been active for 3 minutes in the community?
Many people here in early sobriety ( and long term) spend hours per week. Infact some hours per day. You can get a general glimpse of that by clicking someones profile picture.
Whether here. Zoom meetings. AA programs or what ever method you choose to help in the fight. Just remember you only get out what you put in. I dont go to the gym for 20 minutes and whinge im not an athlete if that makes sense?
I spend equal + more time now working on my sobriety then i did spend drinking. At first that was deleting all social media with this app as my only accessible phone media and community at my finger tips. I dont post much
But i read and read and read. This app is my #1 tool in my tool box. And everyone has different approaches.
Whats your plan?
( i dont know how to tag in another thread) but search whats your plan. It is absolute gold.
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Its insanity and a progressive disease. Look back and ask yourself what didnt you try before. Try it now. Build up coping skills. Find community. And stop giving yourself outs because it gets deadly
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I couldn’t quit for real until I lost something I really cared about. The thing I lost was my kids to foster care, I was deemed an unfit parent. That was the catalyst for me, been sober over 8 years now.
What are you most afraid of losing? What are you doing to stay sober? Why do you want to be sober? Why do you think you started drinking beyond what is normal?
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Ive been this way. I had 2y up and slipped back.
After 1.5y of being back drinking i was ready again I could never get more than a week off when I did i always went back and deeper each time.
In my experience you got to sit with yourself sober and ask what another drink is going to do for you. Is it going to make things better or the reality is it going to push you mind and emotions into spaces it doesn’t want to be?
Is that emotional space worth the short lived good time?
Taking into account your own state, how does it affect those around you?
Time to ask the hard questions, youre half way there not wanting to drink.
Go all in and nothing at all, within a week your head will clear a bit more, choose not pick up for another week.
My favourite technique is always to say to myself “nuh not today but maybe tomorrow” because tomorrow never comes
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Welcome to the TS Family, Shane! @Swmorrison
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I kept going back to drinking, when I was just wishing and hoping to get sober, and ‘trying’ very hard, but it wasn’t organised or productive. Like others have said, you need a plan, structured activites to support sobriety done regularly. Meetings are a great way to get that in a ready-made package, otherwise, curate your own, but it should require effort and be daily in the beginning (imo).
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For a long time, I would quit for a few days then drink again. Like a broken record. I realized, when the hangover is your only motivation to quit drinking, you’re only motivated when you’re hungover.
Finding the reason to go beyond day 3, day 4… day 7 is part of the journey.
My journey is documented here:
Change your Relationship with Alcohol
Hope this helps.
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