So the guys that followed my previous thread. I did go out that Saturday day / evening and did end up having a relapse
Spent £300 and after 10pm was blackout! Woke up in Salford (Manchester) naked on a sofa with a couple of girls opposite on armchairs. I cannot remember what happened although had some flashbacks so thinking must have done something. The guys house it was came down at 9am, helped me find my phone and other clothes and directed me back to the city centre. quite polite, I cannot remember but won’t have been a pleasent night. I had an hours walk to the City then an hours train home in the morning (deserved)
I’m now 6 days sober again- the cycle starts as usual
I did read your previous post, you put yourself in a situation like you have done time and time before, I’m going to be really Blunt, did you really expect a different outcome? You do the same thing then it will stay the same, your trying to quit alcohol and constantly be around it, you are not giving yourself the best start. If you want a different outcome then change your routine, until you have the ability to say no and be happy not to drink stay away from the clubs and bars. If you are determined to get better, take this as a lesson, dust yourself off and get on with it, get back to being motivated to get sober, when you get there you’ll realise that you are worth way more than trying to keep up with the lifestyle, you will find a woman who is worth more than a one night stand and you won’t feel empty anymore, get what advice you can from the forums and even at first the advice of what to do seems silly just try it, what have you got to loose by trying?
Thankyou- appreciate the feedback. And it makes perfect sense- the only thing I’m bothered about when I’m drunk is self gratification, women and more alcohol!
It sounds just like my last relapse. I thought I could go out on a date and handle the situation, restraining myself from drinking. But just like you I got swept up, except I remember what happened. After that, I kept drinking every weekend for the following three months, until a three-days drinking spree non-sleep, that almost costed me my job.
It’s been 8 months since then, and I did went out a few times after that - with the very same girl. But I made it clear that I wasn’t drinking anymore, and she was totally fine with it.
But if the situation was the same today, as in my last relapse, I surely wouldn’t risk my sobriety over a date.
So I’m going to say this about drinking and women. My love life is infinitely times better now that I’m sober. Seriously, if I would have known about sober sex I probably would have done this years ago.
Sorry to hear it went south mate but must say I agree with @RedDragon. If what you’re doing isn’t working for you then it’s time to find a different way! You deserve it.
There are so many people out there and things to do that don’t involve booze. Being sober doesn’t have to mean being antisocial. Although I do go ‘out’ a lot less now but I do more daytime stuff at the weekend which I prefer.
I might be wrong with this but it sounds like you need to cut that link in your mind that alcohol = good times. Even though you know it isn’t true it’s a tough thing to break when that’s what our minds have been conditioned to believe. Have you read This Naked Mind or any other recovery books?
So is it a confidence thing? Don’t you think that you would be able to approach a woman sober? Or do you need Dutch courage to be able to have sex with a stranger? Maybe there are underlying confidence issues that you are not addressing
You might not be giving off the best impression with women if you are drunk anyway??
Either way, good on you for getting straight back on the horse 6 days sober and that was just a glitch:)
but I do more daytime stuff at the weekend which I prefer.
6 days sober and that was just a glitch:)