I’ve been clean for 9 months and 27days and have a 2 month old but I feel like I’ve failed my older sons makes me feel sad all the time but I’m strong I just need god to guide me in the right path so far I’m loving my new life sober and free!
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Thats great news Tiff. Keep it up. Don’t beat yourself up too much over the past. It’s never too late to be a good parent.
Congratulations on your sobriety time and welcome to Talking Sober. This is a really awesome community with lots of great people and so much information and help. I would suggest getting involved with a program Like alcoholics anonymous or narcotics anonymous there is also some other programs. Going to meetings would be good because you can meet like-minded people and build a network of people you can talk to or meet with regularly. Also working the 12 steps with a sponsor Through alcoholics anonymous or narcotics anonymous will help you deal with your past and come to terms with things that are bothering you. It will also teach you how to be OK with today and be able to feel content in your sobriety and feel more peace in your life. I know for myself in the past this is something I was unwilling to do for lots of reasons or excuses but this time participating in a program and going to meetings plus doing the steps has greatly helped my life. The main thing is if you continue to put your recovery first everything falls into place and works out for the better. Once again I want to say welcome to the community. Glad you’re here and congrats again on your sobriety time that is really awesome
Ps: I think most of the time finding a sponsor has to happen in real life so you can be able to meet face-to-face and they can help you better. But this is mostly what I’ve seen I am not counting out getting a sponsor virtually I just personally have never heard it done that way. Regardless this is a good step that you are thinking about this approach.
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Sober Moms kick ass! Keep it up, Tiffany.
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Welcome to the forum @Tiff2 , it’s hard work being a parent and staying sober have you thought about going to a meeting I’m a single father and I stopped going to meetings for a year because I was too proud to ask for help so I could go to meetings but now that I’m back my daughter gets the best version of me
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Hi Tiff welcome to the Forum and over 9 month sober is amazing.
Everything Trevor @bluekoolaid_88 has said is 
% true including what he said about Sponsors.
They’re usually found in their natural habitat, which is AA meetings or other recovery meetings, go bag yourself one today!
I’ll leave it at that, jus keep on keeping on.
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Girl, i feel you. I’m getting close to 5 months sober but was in jail for 4 months. I fucked up my life. Now im taking it one day at a time and trying to be the best me for my kids. I would love to have a sponsor too. Lost my job while in jail and still facing charges so going to court still.
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Best place to find a sponsor is by going to meetings you’ll be surrounded by like minded people you’ll get phone numbers and you will be made to feel welcome
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I never even thought of that. Having a sponsor that is. Did you find one?
Yeah me too I still have to turn myself in for a warrant I was released with smh it’s like never ending
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Welcome! I to am newly sober I have just shy of 11 months also new to this app. Congratulations on your new sober life! I’ve felt the same way about disappointing my kids and have found all I can do I go forward and show them I’m trying to get better so I can be present. You can’t take back the past but can make a new beginning 