Hi, I’m new here and on day 1. I’ve finally decided I’ve had enough. Alcohol has had such a grip on me and this past year is something I’m not proud of.
I’m sick of letting friends and family down. I’m sick of trying to hide it and pretend everything is fine. Sick of the hangovers, the sneaking out to get a case or a big can. I just want to be here for my kids and be the best wife I can be before it’s too late. I watched my mom drink herself to death and I can’t believe I’m following down that same path.
Any encouraging words or advice would be so welcomed.
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Welcome. 
This is a great group. Lots to read, lots of advice, shared experience and compassion. Take it one day, one hour or minute at a time. You’re worth the fight.
I’m a mom and wife too. Similar story. Happy to be almost 2 years sober.
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Glad you’re here reaching out for support, that is a great first step in the right direction and this is a perfect place to find not just support but also resources to help along the way!
I can definitely relate to what you said about being sick of feeling like a disappointment, of pretending to be ok, of being sick, and of the sneaking shady behavior! Getting sober won’t be a “cure all”, but it will certainly help alleviate those symptoms. There is a lot of work that needs to be done surrounding behaviors and thought patterns when it comes to addiction, but it’s well worth the effort.
This forum is a great place to build connections with others who are also dealing with addiction and trying to walk the path of sobriety! There are also other group settings that you can find support networks like AA, Smart Recovery, and Recovery Dharma!
The link below will take you to a great thread here on TS that is a great place to “check in”. I’ve only recently started checking in on a daily basis, but it’s already something I know will be useful for my sober journey! As someone who needs accountability, it’s perfect to have in my sober toolbox. A lot of encouragement and support to be found there!
https://talkingsober.com/t/checking-in-daily-to-maintain-focus-83/204169
Like I said before, I’m glad you’re here! There are plenty of people here who are willing to listen and provide their experiences. Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need additional support! 
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Welcome to the forum! 
Glad u found us! I too have a husband and child and they were also a main motivator for me to get clean and sober. The mom guilt was horrific thats for sure.
But just focus on taking things 1 day at a time. Get as much support as u can, as we cant do this alone. Have u ever tried an AA meeting? They have ones that are in person as well as online. I use the Intherooms app for that. Helps when its difficult to get out of the home for various reasons. This forum is a HUGE help as well. Check in daily. The more effort to put into ur recovery, the greater benefits youll begin to see 
Hope to see u posting more.
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I can relate to feeling like we are letting everyone down and ourselves n it gets in ur head, I have relapsed more times then I can count but picked myself up and kept trying. I did some research into hypnotherapy and decided to make the booking. I can honestly say it helped, im sober 3weeks Yes not long but 95% of the time I dont feel like a drink, its just the old triggers that pop up every now and again and I fight it out finding something else to do for 30min that blanks it out, gym a walk, clean the yard, play with my kids is a good one and the urge is gone, for example yesterday was my birthday in my head was a battle all day and on each shoulder was good me and bad me whispering in my ear, good me was blocking the urge to drink fighting hard saying no find things to do and block out the urge u can do this, bad me was say go on, its just for today its your birthday reward yourself then go back to not drinking, it was a tough day only till my kids and wife took me out to a lovely lunch and walk to the park and just had fun for a few hrs after lunch, I did not think about it even I got home and then realised the urge had gone all afternoon and night and that I had won the battle, it was my first sober birthday in over 25yrs. Im committed even more now on my sobriety to no drinking. I have herd all the advise in the world over the years, but hypnotherapy or hypnosis really worked for me and I highly recommend it to anyone, especiallyif youtruly want to stop drinking. It will either work or calm the urges, cant hurt to try right. Best thing I have ever done for myself and my family. Stay Strong.
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