Hi everyone! This is my 29th day, which is really great, I was never sure if I would make it so far.
But this is what I have realised about myself.
I became very irritable and grumpy. I try not to cause problems to anybody, but if someone will cause me unconvinience, like you know, pushing an elbow on a mid row sit on a plane, taking the wrong place in the lane or I see somebody doing some stupid stuff or etc. - it would make me feel like I am going to “storm the front”, you know :). Though after I somehow take control over myself, I am really worry about those situations. Most of my life I was a calm person. But now it sometimes strike hard. And I don’t really link it to declining alcohol, but maybe it is because of that. What would you do to cease those unwanted “rage” and “inner pseudo-teacher” situations? Thanks everyone in advance!
For me i look for the positives in people rather the negatives that makes me more acceptable to others Idiosyncracies .No control over people ,places and things. wish you well
Thanks for the answer. I got something for me. But in my “previous” life was a lot more calm. And you can’t avoid, say, being in transport, where a lot of people don’t “look around”. And as much as you want to be accurate and respect the “space of the others”, sometimes(most of times), you feel that people don’t care and will stomp and spit on your space. And if I see that happening to someone else, I also feel that rage feeling, like come on, don’t you have eyes, why are you doing that? And we don’t have to judge, but it means that I do in those situations. That’s hard.
But still, maybe anybody knows that techniques to stay a bit calmer in thise situations? Cause since I stopped drinking those situations just stun me in those agressive emotions inside. Or maybe time will balance it, who knows
Thank youvery much, sincerely! That’s what I was thinking couple of moments ago. True, sports always help. I wish you well too!
In the beginning of my journey I felt like that. Good news, it was a short phase. When i felt lile i was going to blow, i went to the bathroom and prayed.
I know what you mean. I sometimes get the impression I am idling at 7,000 RPM (the car people in the room will get that 
), just below the red zone. And then all of a sudden, it’s ON. Physical activity helps to a point. Because you get used to exercise, and when you miss your sessions for a few days, you get irritable again and you can even resent people who make you pass on that exercise. It’s a balance. And not an easy one.
But yes, starts with a light exercise in the evening, when the craving is the most likely to happen. It can help a bit there too.
That is a great advice, prayer helps indeed. It is proven many times in my life.
You can control yourself… that’s it. You can’t control anyone else, especially strangers on a plane. I learned that while I used to drink to drown my sorrow and pain, they are pretty good swimmers. The only one I hurt is me. I have growing and learning to do and I’m now in therapy which I believe is helpful. What’s not helpful is to meet anger and frustration with anger and frustration. These are temporary situations. Think: I’m going to be part of the solution, not the problem. It seems you’ve been numb to some of the anger when drinking and now, your anger has lost its security blanket. Explore why you have the short fuse or why these things irritate you to such an extreme. First, believe that you can make this right. I wish you happiness and peace!
When I realised it yesterday, I took my old basketball and when to throw it. Todays evening I have repeated it. I must say, that it feels much more relaxed. It has actually already helped me today to stay calm. And I hadn’t push myself to stay calm, I was all the time. Sports helps!