So I’ve been clean almost 9 months and I was feeling super proud of my strength to stay sober. But due to financial struggles it really triggers me so bad. Simply because Ive never struggled financially while sober and it really messes me up mentally. I am so stressed over money and I have came so far. I feel misunderstood by my partner who has no history with anything ( which makes it easy to stay clean) but it’s hard to be understood no matter how I explain it. Since I’ve gotten sober I’ve gained a house, a car, a good man, and his beautiful children that love me so much! I just need some strength and some guidance maybe.
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When I used to drink I used the drinking as my coping meganism for everything.
So when I had to deal with something bad (like your finincial struggle) I would drink. But when I had a very good day that was a reason to celebrate that with booze too.
So beside drinking I had to change my coping strategies too. That is what recovery is I think. Not only quit drinking, but change also everything around it and this is one of it.
What I do now when I have a bad day? At first I talk about it with my significent other. I also write about it in my diary. I go out for a walk ore I work out a bit to get the stress out.
If I still feel unconfortable I come here to vent about it. It works for me. I call it my plan B, alcohol used to be my plan A.
Same here, that’s why I am here too for one of the many reasons 
So keep going and life your best life, you deserve all this 
Just one feet after another sober, day by day. Financial problems are difficult, but drinking isn’t going to make it better ore dissapear. It only makes things worse.
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Welcome. I think sometimes when we are so used to messing things up, peace and stability feels weird, and bizarrely our instinct is to make a mess again.
Just appreciate what you have, and make efforts to pay it forward. If money is a worry, could you start a NISA or something so you feel you are doing something?
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We can focus on what we gave up (drinking, using) or we can focus on what we gained ($$$, house, friends, family, self respect).
It’s a conscious choice we can make - if we act as if, we can become that person.
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