Hey all! I don’t drink every day but when I do, it’s not just one, it’s 3 or even 4. I think I’m fine, but I’m not. I have some friends that say, you’re fine, there’s nothing wrong with you but on the flip side I have some friends that are concerned. My husband is getting really upset with me. I need to fix this. I have made an appointment to meet with a therapist that specializes in addiction and then I found this site. I’m not interested in AA. I’m not religious and it would seem disingenuous for me to go. I’m hoping to find motivation, support, and learn a thing or two from everyone here. I did go to a football game yesterday and I announced I would be the DD. My brother was shocked and asked if I was ok. I told him, no, that’s why I’m the DD. I was proud of myself!
You should be proud of yourself 
I know it’s not always easy telling people.
The people in my life were always used to me being a fun loving party girl.
That’s not me anymore though.
Now I’m boring and I’m ecstatic about that. 
You know what’s best for you regardless of what other people are telling you. Something in you is telling you that something is off with your drinking and I commend you for listening to your instincts! Especially in a culture that pushes drinking constantly.
I know that AA helps a lot of people, but I’m like you and it doesn’t align with my personal needs.
I think there are a lot of options to look into in regard to support.
Welcome and I look forward to hearing more from you on here! 
Plenty of other programs out there rather than AA , keep us posted on your journey wish you well
Don’t let anyone else tell you that you don’t have a problem, what they are doing is enabling your drinking and also when they say things like that it is because they are needing to reason their OWN drinking.
Only you know that you have a drinking problem, how it affects your life and your well-being.
My sister has told me lots of times I’m not an alcoholic when damn right I am. She had not lived my life. Does not live inside of my brain, heat and body and therefore cannot tell me I’m not an alcoholic. You’ve really got to shut down those types of dialogue or they will lead you astray. Believe me the alcoholic within you will latch on to any excuse to drink.
I hope this is useful advice!
Maybe read “The unexpected joy of going sober” it’s a great book and changed my life. Three years in. Let’s go!!!