I need to motivate myself again to change

Hiya. I’m currently laying here in bed after binge drinking last night. Called out of work (again) and am slowly inching towards getting fired (again). I didn’t drink for about a week and then just had the urge to go pick up some beers and a half pint of vodka. Of course I got more when that was gone. I’m at the point where I don’t even want to be drinking and my mind just keeps pushing me to. I need to change how I’m living my life, but I’m bad at motivating myself to try new things. I’ve been sober for 2 years before and remember how much better I felt. I’d like to get back there. I’ve been back binge drinking for 8 months. I need to stop.

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Welcome to TS! What did you do to get and stay sober in the past? What’s your plan now? This is a great community. Lots of resources and support.

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Welcome and I’m glad you decided to post and be honest and vulnerable with us. I was a binge drinker, too, and chronic relapser for a while before I found some footing by coming here and engaging with this community and then building my methods to stay sober with support.

You had two years, which is awesome, by the way! How can that experience help you now? Are there lessons you can learn about what led to a relapse? Have you got any kind of support there you’ve relied on before that you can reach out to? Anyway, I’m glad you’re here and hope to see you around.

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Alcohol changes your brain chemistry and tricks you into thinking that you need more.
A friend sent me a quote that changed the way I think.

“The only way anyone ever quits an addiction is that they come to a place where the desire to be free exceeds the desire to use.”

I have been listening to the easy way to quit alcohol by Alan Carr.
Also another book Alcohol explained by Allen Porter.
Listening to these books helps me understand the damage I am doing to my body.
Hope this helps, you can do this!!:wink:

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Thank you. I figured I should start talking to some like minded people finally.

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That’s an excellent place to start.

Meant to say hope this helps, but I’m sure you got the picture🙂

I am only on day 3 and I found an accountability partner to do it with me.

I have been making mocktails (Perrier, pineapple, cranberry, and garnish with lime) and scrolling tik Tok. I look up stuff on getting sober, that is also helpful.

Hey welcome! This quote right here was how I felt at the end of my drinking. I didn’t want to drink but I did. My mind “needed” it or it was just what I did out of habit.

Change is hard but it really is worth it. Set your intention and get down to work. My first few months were rough. Let yourself eat what you want and sleep when you want while you change your habit and heal from drinking. I read every recovery memoir I could get my hands on and read on here every day. I read every meme ever posted on here and that’s about 50,000 or so. Do whatever you need to do to lay a sober head on your pillow at night. Sobriety is worth it and so are you. Welcome aboard.

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