Well, I messed up but I got back on the wagon. I am now going on day 4 once again. But that is okay because I have been given another chance and I’m going to take it. I know I can do this. I have to remind myself that I cannot be around people that are drinking. Even if I think I can go without drinking, I know for a fact that I can’t. Not at this time and probably not anytime soon. What’s really bad is even when someone asks me to go to dinner I have to say no because when I go to dinner I want to have a drink. That is where it started this last time. And it did not stop with one drink, it stopped at a night of drinking and waking up with a hangover and remembering why I had quit drinking. And why quitting is my goal. I am not giving up!
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Day 4, again, too. I am the opposite, I have to force myself to be social.y drinking is when home.
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As long as you’re learning what you can and cannot do, you are making progress, and progress is a good thing!
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I’m on day 3 and I hear ya. Just going out to dinner makes me want to drink. Now that I’m making a conscious decision not to drink I’m realizing how many social activities I associate with drinking. It’s a lot. Just keep taking it one day at a time. I’ve decided that I’m better off deciding to just not drink TODAY. When I think about never taking another drink it’s just too much. So I’m just sticking to one day at a time. I tell myself I will not drink today. Refusing to give up is a great mindset! You are worth fighting for.
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Thank you so much
Thank you so much for that! Yes I have realized that there are so many social activities that involve drinking. Basically everything I was doing involves drinking. It is so crazy! I never realized it before. I am really thankful that I actually am realizing it now. And that is such a great idea to just make the choice of not drinking today. It is hard when you say I’m never going to take another drink. I am going to try that thank you!
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I go through phases where I have to make myself be social. Because sometimes I feel like I just want to lock myself up in my house. but I am so scared anymore to go out and do anything because everything involves drinking in my eyes. Except for when I’m home alone because I am there for myself. There’s not going to be anybody else there for me. I’ve tried it. You got this! We got this together! Keep going 
I am slowly learning that we are stronger than what we think we are. Congratulations on your 4 days 
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Sometimes it’s even just “I will not drink tonight”. So here’s to not drinking together! Press on!
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Recovery is all about progress, not perfection. Your never give up attitude is awesome and will be a strong ally daily to stay sober for today. I totally believe in you!
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I’m on my first day 2. I was worried about the weekend but someone on here told me to just make it through the day. That helped me so much and here I am on a Friday night sober! I’m making myself stay busy at home, I neglected a lot of stuff. It’s good to know I’m not alone. Thank you for sharing. One day at a time.
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Hi and welcome to @crystalclear
Guys, I know it’s going to be odd, but staying away from temptation is one of the best things to do in early sobriety.
I spent Christmas and New Year at home drink free this year because I knew it would be hard.
Why put yourself in a position where you will struggle!
Once you feel confident and comfortable with your sobriety, you can get out and enjoy life. It’ll still be there and better!
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Maybe try a meeting meet like sober people who you can socialise with without drinking worked for me wish you well
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Thank you so much for that. I appreciate that
Absolutely! You are right. I never looked at it that way thank you! That means a lot to me thank you so much.
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DO NOT GIVE UP!!! If nobody has told you this, YOU ARE WORTH IT! Idk you but I do know that God has a plan for you and if you just listen and be patient he will show you. Keep your head up, take it day by day, minute by minute if you have to. And most importantly, change your people, places, and things for your own self!!!
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Don’t give up!
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Happy Saturday.
I had to relearn how to live in my own home. Cause that’s where I drank. I had to learn how to turn on my stereo without a drink just to listen to music which I love.
Had to learn how to clean my house run the vacuum cleaner without sipping. What a challenge. I seriously had to relearn to live in my home straight across the board.
I conquered it. But I still can’t pick up a pen to write an article a short story a five line poem because I can’t pick up a drink. And it’s a way I made a living. I feel sad saying that but Grateful that I did.
Thanks for listening.
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Thanks for putting that post on here. I found it very helpful x
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I can totally agree with you on this one Vicky.
I used to always have a drink in my hand at home. No matter what I was doing.
Sitting watching TV at night on my own because my wife is studying was the hardest one. I mean I used to hide it from her so I had to stop myself from doing this. I mean, I’ve done it before, I can carry on right? Just hide it better! No! I made the decision and stuck to it.
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That was the most inspiring and most amazing post I have ever read in my journey of sobriety. I thank you for that and I appreciate that more than you will ever know. I save that to the front of my phone. I read it the first time and it literally put tears in my eyes. Then I went over to second time. And then I sent it to my daughter. Anyways I just wanted to say thank you so much for that.
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