I just relapsed after four days clean of porn and I feel physically sick to my stomach I don’t know what to do to finally atop this I know its harmful food me but master nation gives me such pleasure and its making me sick what do I do??
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Having a little grace and compassion with yourself can help. Being caught in a shame spiral won’t help you foster improvement and growth. I can speak from experience as someone that used to internally beat myself up and bully myself for days after any mistake I would make. I would always end up making the same mistakes again and again. This is a slow process and it is going to take time.
My recommendations are journaling, mindfulness meditation, and urge surfing. If you have a safe and private place for you to journal the deepest and most painful thoughts you will be able to start processing them and letting them go. A really good free resource for meditation is Insight Timer. They offer meditation under several categories and yoga all for free. Urge surfing is a mindfulness practice by interacting with an urge with curiosity. Identifying any emotions that you may be feeling, or where in your body you feel your urge.
Ultimately this is a continual practice that starts to get easier, but you can’t rush it. Believe me I tried to speedrun self-improvement and the results can be embarrassing.
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@FracturedNoMore I had not heard if urge surfing before but it makes sense. I’m going to try that the next time I feel my addiction snapping at my heels.
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It’s a great way to create space between an urge and action. Over time it is said that it helps reduce the intensity and duration of urges. I have been failing with my urges lately so I need a new strategy. I am already meditating daily so being ready with urge surfing would be easy for me to implement.