I am one day clean from porn, I’ve struggled and battled with this all my life
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Well done! And welcome to this place. PMO is not my addiction, but if you use the google glass you’ll find that there is threads that give solid advice on how to make sobriety last.
I’m here because I need accountability and help and support with porn addiction. The longest I’ve been clean was 10 months but I relapsed and now I back to square 1.
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10 months is absolutely huge my friend!
I also have a big problem with PMO, and just had to reset last night after 5 days without P, and 13 days without MO.
13 days is the longest I’ve gone in probably over 10 years, so you’ve gotten a lot further than myself.
Keep coming here to look for support, and maybe start using this thread of your own, to start a daily log to let us all know how you’re doing each day, and how your journey is going.
There’s also a website with all zoom meetings for people like us struggling with PMO. You can find a meeting at almost all times of the day.
Stay strong my friend, and never give up. I know I won’t. You got 10 months before, let’s make it a year and beyond this time. I’m right here with you 
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Welcome @Elementofsurpise 
Like you, I struggle with lust-based behaviours: allowing my eyes and my mind to consume people like images, to fantasize in dysfunctional, harmful ways, and to escape reality. It is a serious problem.
It is possible to find freedom from it. For myself I have done a lot of personal learning and growth, and a growing amount of service to others, in Sexaholics Anonymous (www.SA.org). It has helped me to understand and manage my mind and my heart, and to stay focused on living my life in constructive, healthy, and helpful ways (for myself and for others).
You always have a choice. You can find freedom. Do not give up: search for people who understand and learn from them. It is possible to leave this dependency in the past, and find your freedom, today and in the future.
What threats. Isn’t Google glass like sunglasses with a camera on it? It quit porn you need to stop looking at wome. You find attractive. No checking out body parts because you can not have relationships with random women. If you need to talk or interact with such woman. Just look them in the eye and they will throw themselves at you more and you refusing to give them will boost your ego even more. As far as porn, why give these online homewreckers money? They destroy the families and you are just handing them cash by watching their ads before the video. Plus even the soft stuff you watch will support the illegal type of porn so you are helping these monster. If you need to release your whatever I am allowed to call it in here, do so without porn and do not count it as breaking your streak because you just did it once after 10 months
The same could be said about drug dealers. Cocaine nearly destroyed my family, livelihood, and career. But the drug had a strong hold on me, just like the OP here with their porn addiction. It’s easy to say…just don’t line the pockets of the sellers but it’s much harder to do when you’re deep in addiction.
I normally don’t comment on porn threads, but I found your post extremely dismissive of someone struggling with addiction. A bit of advice…addiction comes in many forms and not everyone can relate. Sometimes scrolling on by is more helpful in the end.
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That’s an excellent point. It took me years to understand the parallels between my relationship with porn, and the relationships people with substance addictions have with the substances. There are a lot of similar behaviours: the obsession, the fixation, the isolation, how it reduces us to people living alone (physically or mentally) and always looking for the next fix, or recovering from the last fix.
There is also a misperception that’s very common in discussions of sex / lust / porn addictions, that it’s about something physical. It’s not. Explaining that is a longer discussion that isn’t really within the scope of this thread, but the important thing is the addiction is not about the behaviour. The behaviour is a symptom.
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