I am meeting with my friend and we’ve been trying to sort out a porn addiction for both of us for years. I relapsed last week and i avoided him for a few days. He’s upset because im avoiding him and he needs help too but i cant be the only person. I feel like when im low im going to avoid him and i cant promise that wont happen again. And i dont want our entire friendship to be just about this problem. I feel like i need someone else in the group because i dont trust myself to always be there. I hate it about myself but im seeing that im not reliable.
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I certainly dont think ur a bad friend. At the end of the day you have to watch out for ur own recovery. He will at some point need to find other supports and not rely on you entirely. Thats not fair to you to have that kind of pressure placed on u, when ur working thru ur own stuff too. Maybe having an open conversation with him about your recovery and setting some boundaries would help? Just so he knows why ur distancing urself and setting these boundaries.
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