I went to a party last night. I’m a little older then most of my cowoeytheir still barely in college buy they invited me out to a coworkers birthday party.im 8months sober told most of my coworkers. Like the important ones. And then the moment I went into the door the same coworker shoved a jello shot in my face. I grabbed it and idk what happened it was all in the moment but I was kinda sad doing it and very disappointed in myself. I low-key felt judged after when they kept asking me to take shots or dinks and I said I’ll do like a juice shot or soda. And they would like kinda laugh like I was pathetic. So I’m annoyed I ruined my sobriety from that stupid 1 jello shot. I don’t think I really felt it anyways. Maybe a slight bit but. Idk. I know I shouldn’t have taken it anyways. I just fell under pressure and in the moment of not looking like a party pooper at the first party I was invited to. So does this mean I start from day 1? I had a fun time actually but I’m so embarrassed by the reactions and afraid no one will invite me again. But maybe that’s a good thing
Weather you decide to start over or not, I want to say I think its pretty awesome that you didn’t go all in and get smashed.
Its a valuable lesson. Both on how easy it is to slip, and it shows that your sobriety is valuable to you.
many of my co-workers would do the same to me.
Even if you start over, or not, you can approach sobriety in a different way now. You can reflect on this moment, and support yourself next time. Obviously, there is a vulnerability with your sobriety (like every single one of us here), and you can look at this, and reflect, and decide how to deal with this situation in another moment. It’s a lesson about a weak link in your sobriety, and you can move forward. For example, the weak link may be how you handle other’s pressure, social situation as a sober person, etc. For you to figure out.
I have many days accumulated now for alcohol, but my addiction took a turn for the worst when I lost myself in weed. For example, I have 2,309 days sober from alcohol, and 12 days from weed, but I consider myself 12 days sober. Yes, this is humbling, but it’s about honesty with myself, the process, and where I am now.
No one can tell you whether to restart again or not. Only you can. Just as you can only be sober for yourself.
I wouldn’t dwell too much and beat yourself up, but learn from it.
You have still done amazing making it 8 months, that doesn’t just go away. What you do now going forward is where you truly shine…
Keep moving towards your goal. Best wishes.
You did the best you could in the circumstances. I think it’s a great accomplishment to not have dived back in head first and gotten obliterated! As others have said, this is an excellent learning moment. Do you really need to go to these kinds of parties? If you want to go, do you need to just put the Jell-O shot aside and let the jokes go when they happen? You are strong and those jokes are so weak. Keep at your alcohol free goals, you have it in you.
I just really want to appreciate the kind and thoughtful responses youve gotten so far.
Id reset my counter as it was a choice to consume even under pressure. You do not lose those 8 months of continous sobriety and all the tools youve gained. Props to you for not getting shit faced. I dont think i couldve done the same. Stick to sobriety. It brings out everyones shine
Id reset i tell my guys not to get involved were there is drink in early sobriety they prob wouldnt be strong enough , maybe find new like minded friends you can socialize with wish you well
8 months! You have so much strength to do that. I am on 25th day and I know I’m not strong enough to join my drinking friends. We will probably all stumble-
You got this😎
For me I would reluctantly reset but I would also appreciate that the 8 months are not lost and your in a much better place than before and it’s a learning curve.
8 months is amazing.
Good job!
These aren’t true friends of yours if they knew about your sobriety but encouraged you to drink.
Those are not true friends, trust me.
I think you can reset but learn from this.
I say it’s better to be a party pooper than to show up and risk your sobriety.
Once you are able to, you can show up and not drink even if someone encourages you to do so.
The way they react to your sobriety will tell you if they are your true friends or not.
The ones that aren’t, can frankly take a hike, because they aren’t true friends. They are miserable themselves and trying to bring you down too.
Learn from this. Next time the same friends invite you out, say no for a while.