I’m afraid I’m going to relapse. I got really distraught and I just don’t know what to do with myself right now. I’m emotional and there’s no one that I can turn to right now. My boyfriend just doesn’t care and all my friends are either out of state or not here right now. I have no one. No support. I feel like I’m drowning inside myself.
Take a minute and chill…U have a support system here. What’s on your mind?
I love this song…
Um my boyfriend was suppose to invite me to a birthday party thing for our friend. I was the last to know. So I try to call him and nothing try again nothing. So I call my other friend and her boyfriend and they know about it. And I’m suppose to be ready in 30 minutes. I found out from our friends mom and she invited me. He didn’t think about me enough to even tell me. Its like I’m always an afterthought with him. I’m never a priority. Or I never feel that way.
You are most certainly not alone. You are amongst some of the most incredibly honest and caring people you could ever hope to meet. We’ve walked the road you are on, some are just a bit ahead and some way ahead. We know what lies ahead and can relate to where you are right this minute.
It doesn’t help the anxiety or depression knowing that I mean so little to him.
Ur doing the right thing by reaching out! Remember situations are only temporary, just like the highs, but one things that’ll stay with u is learning to make it through a difficult time clean and sober. Keep doing what ur doing and putting on foot in front of the other
Not gonna defend boorish and inconsiderate behavior. How about you get ready and call an uber. Go single. Show up there. You were invited by the host. And don’t talk to him. If he couldn’t think to take you as a proper date, then he doesn’t rate tje benefit of your company.
Wow. That would kick him in the pants…lol
Normally we live together but in this case I’m helping out his parents and staying with them. So we aren’t together this week but still…
oh my gosh
I love this group! Great advice peeps!
I don’t know what I define as good that’s open for interpretation lol
So do it. Fire a shot across his bow. Let him know that you will not be an afterthought.
Have you voiced the fact that he makes you feel like an afterthought or insignificant because of the way he treats you? If so, what is his response?
Lol I knew what you meant but it was funny
I have before. It usually comes down to the fact that he’s the quietest, most antisocial guy in the world. Also it doesn’t help that I’m his first girlfriend and he’s younger than me.
Sounds like he’s got zippy game. Bench him for a quarter. That’ll learn him.
Lol he’s vs body builder and the reason he’s so antisocial is because of his upbringing. His family owns a business in the middle of nowhere. Literally no where. He didn’t have any friends growing up…he’s the “normal” one. You should see his brother!!!
But it doesn’t excuse crap behavior…
K - well I would suggest you consider the advice you have already received from our friends here in the forum…show up with your game on and kindly remind him that he makes you feel like shit…if that doesn’t have an effect on him, move along. There are plenty of guys out there who will make you feel valued and treat you as special as you deserve to be treated.
Have a fun and safe night and let us know how it goes. In the meantime, don’t ever feel like you are alone, because this support group is a 24/7 operation…you know we always have someone at the Watch desk .