Well Ive been on this app for years I don’t even know how long but this is the longest I ever went sober. Got a sponsor and started working the steps. I’m still not sure if it’s for me. I want to do it, but I’ve been such a procrastinater my whole, that it scares me to think my sobriety depends on the program. I have nothing against it just having to do it forever seems impossible. Thanks for listening
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Welcome back and congrats on your sober days Angelica. My personal opinion: our recoveries don’t depend on any particular program. Unless that program is a program of our own design.
I do believe we have to work our recoveries. We have to build ourselves a life we don’t feel the need to escape from. We need a plan, we need to execute that plan and we need to keep adjusting that plan. Living life the right way takes work, and quite a lot of it. That goes for everyone, addicted or not.
I do believe peer support is an important part of recovery. I find that mostly here and through the friends I made here. been to 12 steps meeting for a while and they helped but never done the steps and don’t believe they fit me. Been in therapy for some years now. That helps. Working in addiction care. Exercise. I write a bit. Looking for new friends in real life too but that’s hard.
Just a few things I do. Like I say a do think a program of recovery is important but it doesn’t have to be AA or NA or any A. Personally I liked Buddhist Recovery better. And SMART. Just a long as we put in the work to make our lives better. One day at a time. Glad to see you and wishing you all success. Hugs.
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“Forever” is a mind trap. If the only time that is real is today, then sobriety is just for today. If “forever” is a doomed attempt to be assured that we can accurately predict every scenario for all time, we will fail in that attempt and become disheartened.
You are building up days, so you are gaining experience staying sober during weekends, and some holidays, and other life events. As those events repeat themselves, you will naturally have the confidence of your successful history to buoy your outlook in the future.
For the first approximately three years of my sobriety, I kept very closely focused on staying sober today, and allowing tomorrow to take care of itself. I had to, because I had strict and immediate consequences (a harsh jail sentence for drunk driving) that would be follow from my failure to stay sober in a single day.
You are doing quite well, if you give yourself credit for your consecutive days. And it is all about staying sober today and building consecutive days.
I’m a strong AA guy, still attend 3+ meetings a week and do AA service work after many years sober. Your sobriety does not “depend on the program” - it depends on your willingness to be honest with yourself and on your relationship with your higher power. You can do the things you need to do to stay sober.
Blessings on your house 
as you grow.
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AA paved the way for my sobriety
In my AA prime I only completed the 1st 3 steps.
I read the big book here and there
I love my step book
I have a brass 24hour coin I put on my necklace and wear every day
No doubt about it AA saved my ass
As for doing it forever
I have over 2 years alcohol free
And over 9 months no form of marijuana
Now adays I prefer to stay sober and would rather have a life of sobriety then drinking and drugging
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Why did you stop going?
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Don’t think about “forever” just think about today. And tomorrow when tomorrow happens.
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I moved to a new location and in person access was tough
I go to online meetings sometimes. Mostly i remember what they thought me and practice it. I never want to pick up again
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Welcome back and congrats on your sober days. Just would like to toss my opinion on procrastination. Sorry to say I have always been the Queen of Procrastination until sobriety. Not being drunk I can manage my time and get shit done. I look forward to completion where I never could before.
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One day at a time!
This is one of those cliche’s that you hear over and over and over that sound really simple but are really hard to practice.
Not thinking about the future can just feel rediculous, sometimes, but if imagining having to do something for the rest of your life feels disheartening, then, yeah… to quote Rick Sanchez “Don’t think about it.”
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