Helping other addicts is part of my recovery. I am almost to 90 days and when I help you it helps me. I am only 23 years old but us alcoholics burn brighter than normies. And I got burnt out on chaos in my life.
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I’m in my first week still but I can feel that this time things are going to be different. I’m 26 I have been trying to earnestly quit for a while now and I have a plan now to deal with circumstances when cravings tend to arise and how to combat them. Congrats on the 90 days BTW that’s motivational
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Hi @Leigh ,
What is your plan?
I was 18 days yesterday but binged last night 
I have vomitted 3 times, feel terrible, & now have to get my act together to get the kids to school.
So mad at myself.
S x
Good job on having a plan. It’s important. Alcohol and drugs is tricky. It will tell you things, “you can have just one”, “just don’t use as much” etc. That’s not your rational brain talking, that’s the substance talking and it doesn’t get to make decisions for you 
thanks!
Mistakes happen! As long as you know they are mistakes. Next time you want to drink remember the feeling of having to “get yourself together” to take the kids. Imagine how much easier it will be next time
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@Sarah oh no! I’m sorry you had to go through that again I been there more than I care to remember. Basically the most important thing is to realize that I’m not losing any thing, and gaining everything. It basically the same way I quit smoking a year ago which I had no idea would be easier to kick than drinking. Thank you Allan Carr books. That’s the ideology any ways, the actual plan is analyzing why I was drinking, and why I relapsed the times that I had. What I figured out was that there is a mess of brainwashing I have to slowly chip away at. Because I know drinking for me just isn’t an option. Either I stop or I spiral out of control and lose everything and everyone that was ever important to me for a high I have no control over, and die from drinking or something that happened while I was black or drunk. So I decided to stop forever. This time though there is no voice in the back of my head suggesting this is temporary, like I had before, like all of us alcoholics have that hopeless optimism that if we quit for long enough eventually we can drink again and learn to do it in moderation. And it’s just not true, I saw a thread the other day where a recovered Alkie after three years used the same excuse and was right back where he started after a few months. Worth it? When you quit you have to mean it, and it helps, for me anyways to stay active on forums like this. What I also realized is when we feel the desire to drink we think about these romanticized days in our past somewhere, usually when you still had some manner of self control left, like for me when I was when I could get boozy with my friends on the weekend and still function during the week and do fun stuff, and holidays where everyone would drink and party and eat good food. That’s what we want to get to and be whether it’s subconsciously or not. That along with the “what’s the worst that could happen this time” mentality and we relapse. The reality is we can never drink like that again, ever. Once you realize that it’s easier, because now I can start to undo the brain washing, because now whenever I get that nostalgic drinking feeling instead of remembering all of the good times I’ve had drinking and lie to myself that it’s a part of who I am and something I couldn’t live with out, I remind myself of all the insurmountable bull shit and pain it has caused me as it tore my life into shreds. Which is way, way more bad than the few good times. Now I think about waking up covered in my own vomit when I have to go to work on twenty minutes. Now I think of my health deteriorating as it has been. And losing my wife, my six hundred dollar phone, my wallet, my peace of mind, my dignity. All for what again? The shit happens so fast. But now I have growing toolbox to make sure I never go down that road again.
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@Leigh thanks so much for your awesome post. You have so eloquently described exactly what seems to be going through my mind… the nostalgia… I like the idea of growing my toolbox 
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Excellently written. Thank you for this. 
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