I'm in a dilemma

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So I just moved recently to Texas from Colorado. I’ve been here for about 3 months now and since moving here I started school and have been looking for a job. I moved out here with my boyfriend, as his work relocated him out here is why we moved. A little back story, my boyfriend and I weren’t in the best place before we moved. I caught him cheating on me but I gave him another chance (the move) to change. However, things have only gotten worse. He’s talking to more women and I just recently found out so much more that he has done and is still doing. But that’s not why I am writing this post. Since finding all this out I have been going harder then ever with trying to find a job so that I can move me and my daughter into our own place.

I have gotten offers in the past but when orientation time comes the companys just ignore me and “ghost me” if you will. Which was very discourging but that only made me more motivated. In the last week, I’ve had 6 interviews. I got an offer at one place that I’d be making really good money (more then i have ever made before) with the hours I want and a schedule that works perfect for me. My interview I went to today went amazing and I am pretty sure they are going to offer me the position, I am not quite sure what the pay is yet but the hours will be a little more difficult to work around…however they will pay for my school and help pay off student loans, there is room for growth in the company with what I am going to school for and I really want to work more with addiction than I do with mental illness, only cause I have more personal experience that I could use to my advantage and help more people in that aspect. HELP!!! what should I do? I am so confused with which place to go with…I’m scared if I take one job they will “ghost” me again and I’ll lose my opportunity at the other company and be out of a job once again. I need some advice and some support right now cause I’m not getting it from my S/O.

Tell me what you would do in this situation…and keep in mind I am trying to think this true being realistic cause I do have a daughter and my S/O does work as well. I don’t want to be selfish but I also don’t wanna be miserable.

TIA!

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Shouldn’t a signed offer letter seal the deal?

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Thats what I thought too, but apparently not. One of the companies that gave me an offer letter AND the day of the orientation, I emailed her, I called her to see if orientation was at the same location of the interview. No response so the day of orientation I just showed up early in the morning and sat outside for an hour and when I was finally able to talk to an employee I found out the orientation was at a different location so I had the receptionist call the HR lady that sent me the letter and she said that my background hasnt been approved yet and that she would reach out and I still never heard from her. And I emailed her again after that day. Very unprofessional. The other job I got an offer letter too did pretty much the same thing! They couldn’t even have the respect to let me know I didn’t get the job. I’ve never had that happen in my life so I am a little cautious!

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Get both offer letters in hand, and then decide! Did the first one give you an amount of time you need to respond within? You just have to have faith that what happened at those two rude companies won’t happen again! Good luck!!

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They still have to run my background check first and stuff for we’ll see if they decide they wanna keep moving forward after that. but thank you I appreciate it!! :slight_smile:

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I’ve never heard of such a thing. Where I work they do background then make an offer. Are they finding things in your background check? On social media?I’m not prying or asking you what they might find. Just… is there stuff?

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HR Specialist here. We cannot move forward with a new hire if their background has not cleared. Sometimes background checks get hung up for several weeks. They should be keeping you informed. If they are anything like us, we are extremely busy, too the point we can’t keep up. So many ppl leaving their jobs and having to hire more than double our normal workload. I’m sorry you are having this experience. Best of Luck

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And I also heard with background checks if multiple states are involved it is even slower.

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