Guys, I’m engaged to get married. I’m also an addict to pornography and masturbation. Shes so loving and understanding. We both have faith I’ll get through this. However, the wedding is in 3.5 months, and I’m nervous. My pattern so far has been a relapse every day for 3 to 4 days and then a 3 to 4 day streak. I want to be clean come wedding time, but I dont know if I’ll make it. I’m just nervous about it. She’s told me it’s ok if I’m not completely over it by then, just as long as I’m improving. Words of encouragement and peace, anyone?
Have you looked into going to SA? There’s a link with more info towards the bottom of this page…
Same problem with the porn bro. Can’t be more than 8 days straight without it. But I am able to masturbate completely without porn with my eyes closed.
Just think about something beautiful.
I even can masturbate without thinking at naked girls . It’s alot of training to get there but believe me… You can! Every boy with 12 who discovers his body can masturbate without material. Just the mind!.. and this is healthy. Masturbation is healthy every second day. But not with watching porn.
I use LDS Family Services Addiction Recovery Program
Ive been there, too. But I’d like to stop the masturbation as well
Hi @Desert_Kas_Mulford I would try to advise here as a past SA, but the religious factor and LDS church, changes the whole game I would think. I’m not religious and have no problem with the idea of masturbation and (non abusive) pornography. The big question for me is do you/will you have a healthy intimate relationship with your wife, or would it stop you. I don’t mean that you should tell me these answers! - but maybe ask yourself.
You can do this! Just try to not drink for one day at a time…I was a bit nervous about my wedding too, and I had been sober for 2 years then. You will be fine. If you need anything I am here, (online), several times a day. Do you have a Sponsor?
I just know that I am a dedicated member of my faith and that will never change. The church’s ARP has done miracles for me, and I am so grateful for that. Regardless, I’m addicted to pornography and masturbation, and I want to stop. It matters not who agrees whether it’s an addiction or not; it’s MY addiction, and I want to stop. I know you dont view it as an addiction, but I do. It could be an addiction to Twinkies and it would still be just as valid.
I have a few sponsors 
@Desert_Kas_Mulford Apologies, I did not mean to imply that you are not addicted to pornography and masturbation, or that it can’t be an addiction, and I agree it is a real problem for many people. I was addicted to “sex” mainly from going to strip clubs. I got help from a sex addiction outpatient program, and also through sexaholics anonymous (SA).
I’m an ex-Mormon and in my experience all the blessings and help within the church did not help me. My poor uncle probably gave me 1,000 blessings over the past 15 years, he was the leader of the local recovery program.
I had to seek help outside. I go to AA and see a psychotherapist once a week.
I’d suggest SA and a psych with certification in addiction counseling.
I understand your desire to stay close to the faith, I have nothing against Mormonism. But I do know I personally didn’t break my pattern of relapse until I sought help outside the church.
I needed professionals with doctorates to help me get control of my addiction.
You can still stick with the LDS program too. But if you want to overcome your addiction you need to seek out and use ALL the tools.
That’s my opinion.
Congrats on your upcoming marriage! You CAN DO THIS!
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Ah, I see what you meant now. Thanks!
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Thanks for your thoughts.
Seem to be a lot of old threads with SA stuff. Any more recent posts.