Trying to stay clean but failing every day
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Hi @Elaine35000 welcome to the TS family.
I like to look at my relapses as growth and stages of learning because I found a weakness each time it happened that I needed to work on.
It is a huge step for you to keep getting back up and choosing you again and again. That’s your inner value system screaming “I matter and you know it” and you’re doing your best to listen.
There are a lot of threads here that can help you get a plan in place so that you can be more successful in your current attempt.
I wish you well!
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Welcome, @Elaine35000 . Glad you’re here. Idk what your specific addiction is, mine is alcohol. TS has been a tremendous help to me in my journey. I hope you find it helpful as well. Read around and see what you find helpful. be well!
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Mine is pornography. It’s really bad
Hello @Elaine35000 ,
I am the same with porn. I am 10 days dry from it and still have a long way to go to mend a lot of things wrong with me and my relationships. But taking it one day at a time. I am finding that TS is very helpful in making me feel not alone with my struggle and that it is very supportive if you fail as a long as you don’t give up.
Matt
Sorry I did t get back to you sooner. TS is for everyone. Using the search bar you’ll find topics related to porn addiction, if you need specific help . There are other threads that are more generic. One I like is the “Checking in Daily Maintain Focus” thread. It’s all inclusive, as we’re all working to free ourselves from one thing or another, one day at a time. Hope his helps.
Most of us have been unwilling to admit we were real alcoholics. No person likes to think we are bodily and mentally different from our fellows. Therefore, it is not surprising that our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people. The idea that somehow, someday we will control and enjoy our drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.
We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed.
We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control. All of us felt at times that we were regaining control, but such intervals - usually brief - were inevitably followed by still less control, which led in time to pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization. We are convinced to a man that alcoholics of our type are in the grip of a progressive illness. Over any considerable period we get worse, never better.
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So very true.