Im now 29 years old, almost my classmates who studied with me got married my mom always scolding me about this, because of drinking for 10 years i lost everything my job, financial, now im worried why im like this and how i can live like my friends.
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Life isnāt a competition. What other people are doing in their lives has no bearing on your own path. There is no magic number to be married by, to have a successful career by, for anything.
Stay sober and keep doing the next right thing. Other things seem to have a way of working out if you stick to that.
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Hi
Like @TMAC wrote you have own path. Im 30 years old on my day #289 sober. Without alcohol you will see how life will rewards you. Dont think how they live, how they act. Think only good things.
Dont give up from the sober life.
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I saw you are in Dubai. Is this correct? I can understand why you are concerned about this perhaps because of your culture and the cultural expectations that are on you? Where I live it is similar. The cultural norm here says you should be married by 18 and have kids by 19. It is unusual to be unmarried like I am and Iām 31. When meeting someone new the first question to me is āwhy are you not married?ā Some people judge me, talk bad about me or treat me badly because Iām seen as not a true woman because of my choice to not marry. Iām used to it and this no longer bothers me. It doesnāt hurt me because I am okay and accept that I am single and happily so. I simply donāt care what they think of me and disregard it.
Are you happy to be single? Do you want to be married because your family and/or culture urge you to be? Do you want marriage so you ādonāt bring shame to yourself or your familyā (there is no shame really)? Will getting into a relationship help your sobriety or hinder it?
What others write on this is true and good advice but perhaps it is harder for them to understand the impact this subject can have because of the culture in which they live in.
I hope this helps. Take courage and reflect on what you think is best for you not what others think is best for you. What TMAC wrote is true: ālife isnāt a competitionā.
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Keep pushing forward in your sobriety and live life the way you want too. 
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@TMAC is spot on. Iām 40 and just figuring my life out hahah. Not funny but now it is. Since getting sober and changing my entire way of living, things are coming together. And I know if I stick the course it will continue. Youāre actually in the perfect position to do that from scratch. A new beginning. Stay sober. One day at a time.
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You have a chance to get what ever you want in lifeā¦you get the opportunity to make the life you want to live. Sometimes we look at the people around us and they may very well seem to have a good lifeā¦ but sometimes they dont.
I used to think I needed catch up to the life that others live. I found out that I dont want itā¦I am happy with my life that fits who I am once I learned who I was and what I wanted. I have much more than what I first asked for.
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Youāre doing great. As long as you stay sober, the opportunity to figure out your life is there. Likeā¦ Iām 34, on my second marriage, no kids, no career to speak of. I try to avoid going on social media where friends, classmates, and former bullies alike are posting about their picture perfect lives.
Thing is, I donāt do social media. But if I were to post, people would see my lifestyle as picture perfect. I travel a lot and have tons of pretty pictures from pretty places. But the behind the scenes struggles, challenges, stress, emotionally draining shitā¦ thatās not fit for facebook.
Point isā¦ Youāre on your own path, no one elseās.
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I agree with @Amy30 on social media - well, this is a form of social media, fair enough - , I quit recently using social media. If you look at the return on the time invested in social media, itās not worth it. Look on your phone your digital wellbeing counters. For most of us itās several hours per day. Hours. Think what you could do instead with this time. With your kids, with your significant other, or even with yourselfā¦ There is literally nothing good on social media for us. At least thatās what I thinkā¦
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