That feeling when you know you’re the only hope for your kids to have a normal life. when you realize the other parent doesn’t care to get clean not even for her own kids .
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That’s the frustrating thing about addiction. It makes us selfish. It’s consuming. Most addicts don’t want to harm others or not be there for people. They’re just consumed with the darkness and can’t even process the light when they see it.
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Yea but she doesn’t care about our kids . She doesn’t want to have the responsibility . She only “DRINKS” AND "SMOKES WEED " and is in denial that she even has a problem . Shes on heroin . She doesn’t want help nor think she needs help . I am alone in this . My kids are in another state . And they are Miserable . She doesn’t care . It’s all on me . They are worth it . But I’m alone I need help . 
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Hi, im sorry youre going through all of this, but id like to say you are not alone. We are here for you to help in the albeit small but important ways we can! That situation sounds very difficult, stressful and aggrevating. Honestly im not sure how well i would manage it, but the fact that youre here and i presume sober speaks to your resolve. Im not in your situation, but im sure others on this forum have or are dealing with similar crisis’. I find that reading here helps my perspective a lot.
I hope today brings you some peace and that i can see you around on here. Welcome 
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I’ve seen many moms get clean for their kids but it rarely works. She has to want do it for herself first and foremost.
I’m a mom who was in denial of my addiction for many years. My child had everything she could possibly need except for my complete attention. I often showered her with gifts trying to cover up where I was lacking and I honestly thought that was enough. It wasn’t until I got clean, did I see where I went wrong and what my addiction took away. I can’t change the past so I continue to make living amends on a daily basis.
Hopefully, she’ll come to terms with her addiction sooner rather than later, and be the mom those kids want and need. In the meantime, do what you can to give them the love and support they need in their formative years.
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Relate with this, Lisa. Thank you. I can’t get back all those years, but I do have today, and I’m cherishing as many moments as I can now.
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The will to want to change … the knowledge to know you possibly need help . That’s where it starts . I’ve been to 2 treatments I was clean
The first I was clean 19 months . The second I was clean. 4 months . Both times my ex never got clean . When .my kids were infants … She was the best mom . Now that they are 5 7 8 and 10 . It’s like she has totally turned her back on them. Doesn’t want the responsibility anymore . She would rather get loaded and act like shes Jenny from the block and just turned 18 . partying ,doing everything BUT worrying about our kids . In my addiction I was very self centered but I was also always THERE for my children .i came home to another man in my house two years ago . .her descisons have cost us our marriage and my kids are starting to see her for who she is . It breaks my heart . I’m gonna continue to do anything and everything to get my kids . As she thinks it’s easier and finally a vacation that she doesn’t have that responsibility anymore .
It’s hard to sleep at night knowing someone else is taking care of my responsibilities. It’s also hard hard to sleep at night KNOWING my kids are not happy and they always when can they come live with daddy . I’m doing all I can one day at a time it’s just hard KNOWING I have to do this by myself
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