@RosaCanDo oh, I think you are already doing this - what Stella just posted about grief. But still, it’s so good to see in print.
Thank you a whole big bunch for this, D. It resonates deeply with me. 
Let’s get some more of these on here!
I shared it on the metal thread, but fits here too. Ozzy Osbourne to Zakk Wylde on his sobriety: "life is hard, now go make my 
sandwich. "
Don’t drink, don’t use, don’t lie ever to anyone especially yourself. Be kind, be fearless, be gentle. Find God, talk to him daily.
“If you can cut yourself-your mind-free of what other people do and say, of what you’ve said or done, of the things that you’re afraid will happen, the impositions of the body that contains you and the breath within, and what the whirling chaos sweeps in from outside, so that the mind is freed from fate, brought to clarity, and lives life on its own recognizance-doing what’s right, accepting what happens, and speaking the truth-If you can cut free of impressions that cling to the mind, free of the future and the past-can make yourself, as Empedocles says, “a sphere rejoicing in its perfect stillness,” and concentrate on living what can be lived (which means the present) . . . then you can spend the time you have left in tranquillity. And in kindness. And at peace with the spirit within you” — Marcus Aurelius
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.