@Bigirishdude- Reading your post, all l hear in my head for you is ‘Warning,Warning!’
Don’t get me wrong, l’m not criticising you; on the contrary, they mirror the thoughts l had about myself, until now, so l would really like you to read and reassess what you have written.
Since joining this app.and being sober for 24 days, l am thinking completely differently about my relationship with alcohol than l have in the past.
I used to believe this about myself 100%, and it certainly gave me a valid and good reason to continue my disasterous drinking career!
The truth is, it wasn’t like my addiction was going to come clean with me about this.
I WASN’T a nice person when l would drink. Even after one sneaky glass, my best friend’s husband admitted he knew that l had been drinking, as l suddenly would say things l normally wouldn’t and be ‘impolite’
After a few more glasses, sure l would be more chatty, dance,sing,etc. But l don’t know whether l was really engaging with people in a meaningful way or enjoying myself particularly, or whether l was just trying to be the life of the party so people would like me more.l was so uninhibited by now l really didn’t care.
But I always remember waking the next day, a bit paranoid, wondering what people thought of me and whether l had crossed the line in some way.
Toward the end of my drinking, l could never have just one or two glasses, so the memory of a night out was always peppered with ‘brown outs’ the next day.
I would have to rely on others to fill in gaps for me, because l couldn’t remember the whole night!
And did l ever really get that affirmation from people that they liked me more because l drank, that l was more fun and outgoing? Or did l just assume that because it suited my argument to drink?
I know one thing for sure. If you went away with me for a week while l was actively drinking, l was not positive, friendly or outgoing ( just ask my husband and 3 children).
I was boring, tired, rude and obnoxious, and that was just to my family!
I do not know what level you’re drinking at my Friend, but let my story be a warning to you,( and believe me when l say it comes from a good place in my heart).
Let the cruel heart of addiction not lull you into a false sense of security. It doesn’t care about you, it just wants to manipulate your thinking and behaviour. It NEEDS you to depend on it to survive, so of course it will convince you are a better person when you drink.
It’s all a big, fat lie!
When you were born, you came with all the necessary tools to become a successful, confident,fun,well respected and loved human being. You didn’t need alcohol for those things then, and you don’t need it now.
Like me, you are probably going to need to practice enjoying being in your own skin and being happy with who you are, with the skills you have.
I’m not saying you should never drink, but be careful how much credit you give to alcohol making you a better, nicer person.
Wishing you nothing but the best for your future.
P.S Sorry my post was so long, but l really wanted to reach out to you.