I made Director at work and my employees often say I am the best manager they have ever worked for because I am real. I know that sounds like me bragging but if I was still drinking too much that would have NEVER come to pass.
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Ya we got our marbles back I was told. Now we can start using them.
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Yeah pumping ourselves full of booze and weed and whatever other drugs or bullshit is out there stop us from reaching our personal potential in life.
I have long said that inside each and every person God created lies the ability to become all things that they are capable of. The odds of success in long-term sobriety are in line with the odds of achieving financial independence. It is a Victory on a narrow path. Alcohol deserves a one finger salute into the fuckit bucket of eternity.
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Interested and plan on reading through this. But if anyone is up right now. How do I, or should i quit giving advice to a stranger if i have real big vibes what im saying to them is a waste of my time. Fresh to sobriety myself 1st time for myself. Not even 90 days yet. Am i over stepping. Now that fits lol
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I’m into Recovery Dharma. Online meetings. There is a meditation, maybe some reading and shares. AA was not my thing.
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Ive been to 4 different AAs. Seems like if you dont have a year and your young looking like me, they wont take you serious. However 1 i wish was more than just Friday’s. Gave me a warm family like welcome my first time there. I go an hour early sometimes now. Getting to really know some of the people. They dont push religion. They dont force the steps on you, its your sobriety. All ive been asked was to tell my story. And they like to hear from everyone during the meeting. Most ive seen there was around 20 people which makes a difference for me. When i was in rehab we went to an AA every night. Those were minimum 100 people meetings. Overwhelming i thought.
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Also i was told by a man with 43 years sober. If you are under a year, you have a pass to be as selfish and picky as you have to be to figure out your program, as long as you stay sober during that time. No one here is here because its easy. You have to want it for yourself first and foremost!
That stuck with me.
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That’s a great advice! I’m not into AA or other groups although I’ve been in rehabs several times. I’m so introvert nowadays and because of the social anxiety, I just can’t be around other people right now. But I find my medical team and this community to give me enough support to stay on a sober path. I’m really glad you find AA meetings so helpful! We are all different, so it’s great that we have lots of different recovery plans to suit our personal needs.
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This place has been my main support group for the 5.5 years I’m sober and clean.
Early on I did find support in NA, got to around 50 meetings I think, in my try to do 90 meetings in 90 days. They were a support early on. And there’s some big differences between different meetings, from very religious to not at all, from very 12 step driven to hardly that, from men only to very mixed.
In the end I did find the 12 steps not quite fitting to what I needed. I went into pychotherapy based on my particular psycholocigal problems and needs, stayed connected to my peers here, and 3 years into recovery went to work in addiction care, (I’m a mental health nurse by training and work with my personal experiences as well now).
Lately I’ve been going back to face to face meetings, to Dharma Recovery. Which is Buddhist based, which I like, not in the least because it recognises everybody has to find its own way through life and recovery. But still this place is my main place for peer support. And my life is getting busier. Discovering new ways to express myself and socialize, not just with peers, is part of my journey too. Just keep going, one day at a time.
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Im 860 days…ive never been to a support group meeting…ive done my own work and research on my self esteem… for me tho i think the point is that we all need support in our sobriety from other people who understand what addiction and recovery is like…so whatever form that takes it is vital to our recovery…i have this place to ask for and give support.
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It’s rare that prying is a thing in this forum! 
I like Recovery Dharma due to its meditations and weighs in on Buddhist principles, which are all kind and sit with my values.
The Luckiest Club is online only, though many people meet with other members in their area. There is no required belief, only a desire to quit. Based on their terminology, there is “no dogma, (they) lead with compassion.” There are members from nearly every type of program, or none at all. There is a subscription fee. I believe there is a free trial. The founder is the author of both “We are the Luckiest” and “Push Off From Here.”
I have been with both for quite some time, though now is the first time I have been over a year. Of any program you try, you are the only one with the power.
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I have always been curious about other faiths, such as Buddhism… in general not even just recovery related. It’s nice to see how important this app has been to a few of you, looks like I made a good choice.
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Same here actually. I hadnt heard of recovery dharma before. Im excited to look into it, and I’m going to work on engaging on this app, too. Im happy so many people found value here.
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Another vote for reading ‘We Are The Luckiest’ and I will add in one of my favorites ‘Quit Like A Woman’ and ‘This Naked Mind’…good stuff in all.
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AA helped me stop drinking but I don’t resonate with the steps and also find it too religious. What helped me the most in AA was the fellowship. Hearing myself in other people’s stories made me accept that I’m alcoholic and gave me hope that life is better without alcohol. I made some connections in the rooms and have a ton of people to call if I need to talk to another alcoholic. I like the fact that you aren’t expected to DO anything in the program but I know many others have had bad experiences in the rooms so it all depends on the people in the rooms I think.
I’ve stepped back from daily meetings but kept my home group and let the people I’m closest to know how I feel, they are very supportive. I joined this app and haven’t found a need for much else at the moment.
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Plenty of other programs out there nowadays ,when i got sober there wasnt anywere else to go at that time , but i did stick at it and been sober since 1986 still sober , no social media then so i cant comment on getting sober by app but if works thats fine wish you well
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Since 1986- that’s inspirational! Thanks for sharing. I’ve gotten some great ideas from this thread. I’m excited to look into them.
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