Yes, exactly!! Grieving and not wanting to go back to that past life.
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Being sober means I slept well last night and woke up rested and free of hangover symptoms. I drank my coffee and ate some toast. I jumped on my bike and rode to the lake. I donned my goggles and swim cap and swam almost 1/2 mile in the beautiful lake. I rode home and now get to enjoy these endorphins for the rest of the day and the feeling that I am strong and getting more fit.
Genuine peace and feelings of health and strength may not have the silly euphoria of a wild party, but I wouldnāt trade what I can do now for any of that.
I will spend the rest of this day writing for a career I enjoy, will cook a nice dinner for my husband and likely read another book Iāve selected from the library. Again, not necessarily euphoria and crazy excitement, but a sense of joy and accomplishment that makes my life very special.
I spent 30 years trying to do all that and drink non-stop. It never really worked because I was constantly poisoning myself and fueling the anxiety that was launched from my abusive childhood. Iām 57 years old now and am finally feeling free of that shit. And a large part of that is discontinuing the toxic relationship I unknowingly had with alcohol. I am seeking peace and I am finding it every day that I donāt drink.
Happy Independence Day! Not boring, instead Iām free!
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You are amazing @LAB , thanks for sharing 
beautiful, motivational and uplifting
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@Its_me_Stella thanks for this beautiful and uplifting message Youāre all amazing and Iām proud to be part of this sober community even if I feel alone sometimes. I really need to connect with like minded people and I will. I have my friends but they all drink. I had my girlfriend but she drank and cheated on me, now itās over and I need to be alone for a while and trust myself again. As soon as I feel ready I will reconnect with new people, that donāt get fucked up all the time.
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The famous Samuel Johnson quote āHe who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a manā encapsulates the notion of boredom and sobiety perfectly for me.
As my years of sobriety have gone on, I find myself contemplating boredom and what iām really craving when I find myself feeling āboredā sober. I am getting far better at pinpointing the real meaning of my perceived boredom now.
Usually it runs far deeper than boredom, and the thought of drnking is actually a craving for an escape from the things that worry me, or the things I am dissatified with in life. If I donāt keep myself healthy both mentally and physically this tendency to feel āboredā creeps up on me in the strangest ways.
Donāt get me wrong, sobriety can be legitimately boring when you forced into an organised substance abuse gathering masked as a ācelebrationā. Never did i realise how boring weddings and birthday parties could be until i started going sober. Iāve actually had a better time sober at funerals because people actually let their gaurd down and have meaningful conversations. Thats fucked up but itās true.
I guess what it amounts to is the reality that sobriety can be genuinely boring at certain times, and seemingly boring when life isnāt going too well. For me itās about making the distinction.
Iād love to be able to drink responsibly but thats just not possible so itās either boring or dead.
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@Fridaynoon 
bravo word Thanks for your messageā¦I will keep all you wrote in mindā¦I love the quoteā¦and how you explaine the perceived boredomā¦I understand better nowā¦I think I understand better nowā¦I will meditate on this while I continue my sober journeyā¦
āDonāt get me wrong, sobriety can be legitimately boring when you forced into an organised substance abuse gathering masked as a ācelebrationā. Never did i realise how boring weddings and birthday parties could be until i started going sober. Iāve actually had a better time sober at funerals because people actually let their gaurd down and have meaningful conversations. Thats fucked up but itās true.ā
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so true
āI guess what it amounts to is the reality that sobriety can be genuinely boring at certain times, and seemingly boring when life isnāt going too well. For me itās about making the distinction.ā
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exactlyā¦I never felt that sober was boring the last 6months while I was in a relationshipā¦but since she cheated on me drunk with some guyā¦and Its overā¦Iām done with herā¦Iām questioning everything and life isnāt going too well like you saidā¦thats why I feel like itās boringā¦but as soon as I ride my motorbike or do sports and realise that it just seems boringā¦I feel like itās just my brain who tricks meā¦Iām not boringā¦my life isnāt boringā¦Iām on holiday in south of france right nowā¦Iāve a dope life and I do dope shitā¦fuck getting fucked upā¦I donāt need that shit anymoreā¦Iām 33 and I know what I want for my lifeā¦
Iād love to be able to drink responsibly but thats just not possible so itās either boring or dead."
ā same for me
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A lot of wisdom in this post, Iām gonna remember it. Thank you.
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I get a lot more done living sober than using. Im much more active, and have multiple projects. Find something to accomplish.
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I think it depends on the definition of boredom, which is probably different for everyone.
Just not enjoying the alternatives compared to the intense experiece of being sky high on whatever.
Itās personal thing. What have you come across in your life you feel an instinctive pull towards? One thing? Many things? Before the substance abuse starte.
Fishing? Bullfighting? MMA? Music? Outdoor stuff? Raising a fami
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Been sober for almost 36 years and its been a great journey sometimes has its ups and downs but on the whole its been a busy non boring adventure ,now im retired i have plenty of old guy things to do like my gardening my guitar my Ps4 fifa22 , and traveling with my wife and going fishing with my sons , still do meetings lots of top tables got loads of experience to share ,i love dancing and at weddings and other outings we are up first on the floor , let my Kilt swing to and frow gives the boys some air lol
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Hi Iām sorry to ask I joined today Iāve been sober now for 16 days I read about this app on Twitter and Iām finding very interesting I donāt know how to post my story can someone tell me how I can do this thank you
Also that is not my name itās my password help