This site has been one of the most important things to me in my sobriety. When I showed up here I was 3 days sober and very much a big mess. The people here welcomed me warmly and have helped and supported me ever since. It is very much real and well to be honest even if it was “fake” it would be the best fake thing I ever stumbled across on the internet. Anyways, I hope you read around a bit and see what it’s really about around here and maybe even find some of the help You need to stop.
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Yeah i wanted to do it on my own aswell and i tried many times until I realised I actually couldn’t and that I didnt have all the answers, so I had to drop the pride, admit how vulnerable I had become and ask for the help and support i needed from the people who understand, that for me was the difference, the support, knowledge and understanding from people who are succeeding. Im 3 years sober because of the people on this site.
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I am offended and curious at the same time, but you’re not entirely wrong either… I didn’t get sober online… may I suggest help from a professional, and or recovery group?
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@JohnL I didn’t even know what i didn’t know that early in my own recovery, you’re just like us and we have been able to stop
isn’t that what you want?
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Hi John! You’re not my enemy! No hard feelings! 
And yes, we’re very much for real! I hope you stick around for a while to see what a great place this can be for you! Give it a go!
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Well, you’re here. You are definitely in charge of your decisions etc. However, when it comes to recovery, it’s only smart to surround yourself with people with the same goal and maybe some wisdom under their belt. Some of the many reasons that keep us in active addiction are fear, shame and pride. Those things lose their grip in meaningful and healthy human connections. The fact is that we need support. How that support looks like for different people, varies. We as addicts are often masters in lying, deceit and manipulation of others and ourselves. We need those who lovingly call us out on our BS. If we truly had the strength to quit on our own, we would have done it already, don’t you think?
Again, if you read around, you’ll see common topics in people’s stories. No one can tell you how to recover but there are really proven-to-be-good guidelines found here. I hope you found what you’re looking for and get a proper taste of a life sober. It’s truly worth the fight.
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I think JohnL. is gone. Last posted said they were currently drinking. Maybe JohnL will back when they real want to be sober. Until then we will live in harmony in our fake world, 
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I kind of took that to mean he hasn’t committed to sobriety yet, but I could be wrong. Hopefully he comes back or finds another source of support.
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Yes, hopefully. And I could definitely be the one wrong in my interpretation.
They did not find us on accident. They were here for a reason. The light is on and we are here. Still doing the work to stay sober one more day together.
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Still here and not sober. It’s the weekends that kill me, weekdays not so bad, have a job and obligations.
I will join you and hopefully look back on my moronic posts when I kick this. You guys have been pretty cool, was sober for 6 years, can do it again.
Give me some time, will check back in.
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We will be here when you are ready. Stay safe!
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John, I admire your tenacity in coming back - keep that up! One way to maybe change your thinking is to consider this:
I would say you are wrong. It’s your alcoholism that is killing you. Not the circumstances. When I was drinking I thought that if everyone would just leave me alone and let me drink the way I wanted to, everything would be good. Well, they did leave me alone and I did drink the way I wanted to. And it sucked - the booze in great ocean quantities did not do for me what I wanted it to do. The problem was not them or the circumstances, the problem was me and my alcoholism.
I pray you find your turning point before this thing kills you or gets you locked up. Blessings 
on your house today.
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See ya round JohnL. It’s been real.
Glad to see u coming back 
this forum is truly an amazing one in my opinion. I struggled with specific days being triggers also. Not necessarily the weekends for me but paydays were brutal for being triggered to use drugs. What i had to mentally do was realize that its just another day. Just the like weekends are just another day for u. Sure u may not have the same obligations or work to tend to, but ultimately its just another sober day! Maybe set up a plan for ur weekends. Things that u can do to keep urself busy. I actually plan my day the night before so i know what im doing and at what time. Helps alot to have a routine, especially in early recovery. Hopw ur doing alright since u last posted
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