It’s my first day, I’ve finally admitted to myself that I have a problem. It’s gotten so bad I feel I am going to lose what I love ; my husband, my family. I see how many people I have hurt with my addiction to alcohol. It’s hard for me to go one day without a drink. I am in such a weird place mentally….where do I go from here. What do I do ? I can’t turn back to that life anymore, but I don’t know the way forward.
I feel like I am broken for not being able to handle alcohol. I don’t know why I do what I do, I feel so foolish.
Take it one day at a time! For me, it’s sometimes one minute at a time. Make sure to get lots of sleep/rest, hydrate, drink your favorite nonalcoholic beverages, eat lots of good food, prevent getting hangry, take baths, take walks. Do everything you can to protect your sobriety right now. It will get easier as you go and you will figure out what your triggers are. You got this!
Welcome to Talking Sober - this is a great place to be when you are trying to live a sober life! Take that motivation and turn it into action - like @Cjp, AA and this place has been a huge help to me. In early days, I used Antabuse and individual counseling as well.
I’ve learned that if I don’t do something about my alcoholism each day, it will do something about me. Doesn’t matter how many sober days I have behind me, what matters is what I do today. In AA, the way it is described is a “daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition”.
Blessings on your house as you begin your journey.
welcome to our community and great work on your day 1.
this is a hard journey but so worthwhile and rewarding. Take it one second at a time. For me - the following helped me get started on my sober journey.
staying busy to distract myself from urges (i personally played a lot of games on phones, worked out and did puzzles)
slept a lot (your body is going through a lot of detox and will need time to rest
changed up my routines (so i don’t go past my regular haunts or liquor stores)
didn’t socialize with friends or places that could be possibly triggering.
found this community and spend a lot of time here among my fellow peers. A good support system is key in helping us not feel alone.
be kind and gentle to yourself and keep going strong. hope to see you around
I was you, 6 years ago. I was circling the drain, on the verge of losing my wife, the love of my life.
I knew if I kept drinking and lost her because of it, I’d likely go right ahead and drink myself to death.
So I decided that day, six years ago today, that I would never drink again. Not even one.
So where do you go? You go forward. You do whatever it takes to say “no” to the drink that matters…the first drink. You decide that every day sober is a good day, no matter what happened during that day.
Maybe it’s meetings, or rehab. Maybe it’s long walks and podcasts. Maybe it’s running or crafting or reading or writing, or my personal favorite: martial arts. Whatever it takes.
Don’t be sacred. Remember, there was a time in your life when you didn’t drink, and I’ll bet you had many good days then. You can do this. What one can do, another can do.
Welcome. I’m glad you are here and hope you will stay, heal, learn, grow and share.
The first step is admitting you have a problem so well done
I have been drinking and using drugs with over 15 years and never thought of it as a problem. Until recently aswell I had been clean for over 2 weeks but had a setback 2 days ago unfortunately and have to start again
My advice to you is keep logging on here to talk to people or if your feeling the urge to drink please come on here aswell the support I’ve received here since I Joined has been excellent
Maybe think about what your triggers are that make you drink and think about attending AA meetings in your area aswell I’ve started attending AA and CA meetings the past couple of weeks and find them a huge help
Its day one. Take a deep breath. Treat yourself for the next few weeks on pasta and cakes. First step is being selfish and doing whatever it takes to stay away from booze. Now is not the time for self loathing but rather self love cause its you thats gonna change your life.
Your not broken and your not alone. Idk why i did the dumb stuff i did and i never will. Society makes us think that drinking is so normal and safe. I just saw a horchata commercial that said “why wait for the weekend, Tuesday is just as good” or something very similar to those lines. That isnt normal. Like wtf lol
I’m chiming in a warm and heartfelt welcome! Like the others have said, you can do this and you aren’t alone! You can use the search button at the top to find great advice, for example, good reads. One of my faves is Belle Robertson’s book, The 100 day Sober Challenge. She is a straightforward, funny woman. The book contains links for daily messages and podcast links too, all of which I found helpful. Geez, this is sounding like an advert. I will stop now!
Just welcome!!
Yes this! I’m pretty hard on myself in general, I restrict my diet and work out a lot. But I think, for now, it’s best that I gain a couple lbs and not drink . I can start back on my dieting once I feel I have some control over this. Thank you for your response
You’re so lovely, thank you! I like the idea for podcasts and books . I even started thinking about trying my hand at candle making, or picking up the ukulele ! Much love
as you begin your journey.
today is a wonderful day, and all the choices are within your control!! You can do this and we’re here for you!