It's been 5 years dad

I moved in with my dad back in 2018 to take care of him as he had a heart attack and because he lived alone, they were going to put him in a assisted living place. I lived 28 miles from him, so I talked with my husband and we decided that I was going to move in with dad and take care of him. After his heart attack, during the testing they did, found out that he had colon cancer and dementia. I was going on 10 years sobriety when I moved in with him, and I admit that it was tested alot, but I passed every time. On 1-1-20, I gave dad his morning bath, got him back in his bed, gave him breakfast and put a western on TV for him. I cleaned up around the house and then my husband arrived to take me grocery shopping. Dad asked to have the movie changed before I left, he gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek and said “Babygirl, I don’t know what I’d do without you, your a great daughter, Attawishumash” I said "Attawishumash dad, be back in a few "
At 11:48 a.m. I lost him​:sob::broken_heart:
I felt like my soul, not my heart but my soul was shredded when I found him!!! I had screamed with so much pain and grief that my neighbor heard me and came over…she had to call 911 for me and stayed with me during the time that the emts, and sheriff determined that he had passed away :broken_heart: I thought that was it, I wanted to buy a sixer of Corona and down it all…but I knew that dad wouldn’t want that as he was 20 years sober when I lost him. I didn’t want to dishonor him by giving up and drinking again. I am so grateful to have found this app, I get strength from your stories :pray: :heart:
I’m very grateful for the opportunity to care for my dad and the memories we made. He and my mom divorced when I was 3 so I didn’t get to know him, until I moved in with him. TYVM for letting me share with you all…

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What a lovely tribute to your dad :heart:
Thanks so much for sharing and showing photos. Big hug to you :people_hugging:
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This is beautiful. He’d be proud to read about his strong sober daughter.
Thank you for sharing. đź©·đź©·

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Beautiful! Thank you for sharing. :heart:

The anniversary of my dad’s death was yesterday (NYE). It’s been many years and it’s still very painful. :broken_heart:
My dad survived colon cancer but died of a heart attack at the young age of 66. I screamed hysterically when I got the call. So unexpected. I’m the youngest of 5 girls and was always dad’s favorite. My sisters were jealous of our bond. I’ll be Daddy’s baby girl forever in my heart. I miss him dearly. :cry: Unfortunately his death sent me into a deep depression and that’s when my drinking and drugging escalated. Thankfully, I got my shit together before it was too late and celebrated 5 years sober a few months ago.

Our dads are extremely proud of the women we are today.

Sending you lots of love and hugs today :people_hugging: :heart:

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I’m glad you got the opportunity to get to know him. :heart: Thanks for sharing.

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Thank you for sharing.

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I can hear the grief in your story. What a heartbreaking story. But also a story of hope and determination and love. I think you honour him every day with your choices today, 24 hours at a time.

Thank you for sharing this story. Sobriety means connection, healthy connection and love. To me, your story feels like a story about that. It is sad, but also deeply loving.

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I’m glad that you had the time with him that you did, the closeness and everyday life together. And that you choose to honor him by staying sober.

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TYVM :sparkling_heart: I definitely enjoyed the time we had to actually get to know one another!!

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